This past week I was helping a client through something that comes up for a lot of us: getting stuck in self-critical spirals. Since this is such a common topic I come across, I thought I'd share it with you all: She came to me with trying to move past those intrusive thoughts that say things like "you're not enough, that person is never going to truly love you" or "you're going to be stuck forever." Here's what I shared with her. You don't get to choose the thoughts that pop into your mind. They come from past experiences, patterns, external triggers. But you do get to choose how you respond to them. Once you notice the thought, you have a choice. You can entertain it. Keep thinking it. Keep playing out all the ways it's true and where that leads. That path will take you somewhere anxious and heavy and maybe hopeless. Or you can redirect. Shift your focus. For her, because the thoughts were leaving her with sadness and this real feeling of heaviness, I suggested gratitude. Not as a bypass, but as a genuine redirect. Instead of letting the mind spiral into the negativity, walk back through your day and name the beautiful things. Actually feel grateful for them. When she was a little apprehensive, I reminded her that simply waking up is a gift, and asked her to walk me through her morning from there. You can also rewrite the thought directly. If the thought is "I'm not enough", rewrite it: "I am absolutely enough, and here's all the evidence that's true." Then fill it in. Now here's something to note: this sounds simple. In theory it is. But in practice it's hard. If it were easy, we'd all just shift out of these spirals. We don't. This is exactly why we practice mindfulness. It's what builds the muscle of awareness, so we can actually notice our thoughts instead of being consumed by them. So we have space to choose a different path. When we get stuck in the loop, we get stuck in our heads. We disconnect from our bodies, from our inner wisdom, from our truth. That's why this work matters. It takes us out of the mind and back into ourselves.

Hello lovelies! You might have noticed on the calendar that next week I am hosting a free workshop! It's called Slow Down + Reconnect and it's all about learning why we get stuck in our minds (overthinking, self criticism, etc) and how to slow down and reconnect to yourself. Most importantly we'll be learning a practices that you can take with you after the masterclass. It's completely free, if you'd like to register for it you can sign up here: https://slowdownmasterclass.lovable.app/ Hope to see you there! xx

My boyfriend and I just wanted a chill night in last night. Nothing special, so we put on the movie Soul from Disney+, and I wasn't expecting much, but it ended up moving me to tears. The film is about a jazz musician who spends his whole life waiting to arrive. Waiting for the moment his dream finally happens, convinced that's when his real life begins. On the day he got his big break, he had an accident and found himself on his way to the "great beyond." And what the film shows, so beautifully, is that while he was waiting, life was already happening. In the small things. The ordinary things. The things he kept walking past. Then today I was re-reading a mindfulness book this morning and came across something that stopped me the first time around, so I had highlighted and written a few notes in the margin.... It was about how we spend more than half our lives on autopilot. More than half, actually. Lost in thought, planning, replaying, criticising ourselves, somewhere in our minds other than where we actually are. And most of that mind wandering isn't even neutral. It's negative. It's self-critical... we've just learned to think that's our normal. But more than anything, it struck me that more than half our lives are spent not really here. And I thought about the film again. As we all know, it's not the destination, it's the journey. We've heard it a thousand times. But knowing it and actually living like it's true are such different things. Because the journey isn't the big moments, it's this. Right now. The morning light. The hot beverage in your hands. The slow Sunday. The in-between moments. This is what gives life its colour. This is the whole point. Presence isn't a luxury or a spiritual practice reserved for people with time to meditate. It's the difference between living your life and watching it pass. One of my favourite ways to come back into the present is a sensory scan. Because our senses cannot be in the past or the future, they are only ever available right now.

One of the questions I am asked the most is how to tell the difference between fear and intuition! In this short video, I outline 3 ways to tell the difference, and at the end, I outline a practice for you to try when you're struggling to tell the difference in a situation in your own life 🤍

Hello lovelies, It's been a while since I checked in on here, so I just wanted to take a moment to give you all an update. I've been moving through some things within my personal life, as well as holding space through the first cohort of the 33 Day Initiation into the Embodied Feminine, which has been such a beautiful experience and brought up so much within me and took up much of my capacity as I was recording daily coaching, meditation, rituals, and so on. The feedback has been so, so, so positive and has made my love for this work and helping women truly step into their most embodied and magnetic selves so much stronger. I am happy to say, though, that I will be back on here, showing up in the community regularly. I have so many reflections to share, and to start, I want to really dive into the idea of self-trust. This came up so much for me while putting out the Embodied Feminine. On a conscious level, I know that the information that I am sharing is extemely valuable and that I spent years of my life learning from the source, distilling and making sense of the teachings, and then embodying this wisdom within me so that I can share from a grounded place, but even with my "external" qualitifcations and the embodied practice, my self-trust became shakey as I watched the women move through, thoughts of self-doubt and craving for validation that it was good were creeping up. I watched my inner critic start to say things like, "you don't know what you're doing,," "why should anyone listen to you?" etc... and the beauty and irony of this is that this exact program works through a lot of these topics, self-worth, inner critic, and the whole thing builds self-trust... And while this could have sent me into a spiral or paralyzed me from continuing (and maybe a few years ago it would have), I sat with it, and there was (of course) a learning to be learned. The self-doubt that came up as I stepped further into my purpose, as I stretched into something bigger than I had done before, was the initiation that I needed to step through for my next "level"