Five Identity Shifts That Are Helping Me Go From Apprentice to Magician

So many of yoy loved my last post and asked for more so here we go.

1. I stopped consuming more than I was creating

This ties back to my last post and it’s so important it needs to be said again. I had to stop consuming everyone else’s strategies, doom-scrolling, saving workshops, freebies, and courses hoping one of them would be the one that magically changed everything.

That pattern was psychological — rooted in a deep fear of unworthiness. Learning endlessly was perfectionism dressed up as progress. Doom-scrolling wasn’t relaxing; it was avoiding. Avoiding failure. Avoiding rejection. Avoiding the possibility that I would try, and nothing would happen.

So I got honest with myself. I chose one mentor whose work aligned with my values and stuck to that path. I set a boundary: I don’t learn something new until I take an action based on what I just learned.

I removed social media apps from my home screen and put time limits on them. It taught my nervous system the difference between unwinding and hiding.

2. I stopped treating my coaching business like a spiritual experiment and started treating it like a business

I used to truly believe that if I delivered the right message at the right time with the right vibe, everything would just “take off.” God would move. People would flood in. It would be divine momentum.

Spoiler — it wasn’t.

Relying on vibes alone didn’t give my audience clear language, clear outcomes, or a clear reason to buy. When I applied Dan’s framework and reworked my offer around tangible results, clear purchase paths, and measurable transformation, everything shifted.

I felt confident. I felt legitimate. I stopped feeling like a “spiritual fraud” passively teaching from synchronicity and started teaching from structure.

3. I stopped seeing my audience as viewers and started seeing them as relationships

This one is still a muscle I actively practice.

I used to chase visibility — go viral, be seen, “build fast.”

Now the question is: Am I performing, or am I connecting?

People don’t want to be talked at.

People want to be known.

So instead of broadcasting, I started conversing. I started speaking with people, not to people. The more I put down the mask of authority, the more authority I naturally built.

4. I stopped waiting to feel confident and started building confidence through action

I stopped trying on the personalities of people who were successful in my field. I stopped rehearsing being confident before I acted confidently. I just started being myself — even when it felt messy.

The longer I went without posting, the harder it became to post again. When I stayed consistent and paired action with compassionate self-talk, everything got easier.

I became my own coach.

When doubt showed up, I spoke to myself the same way I would speak to a client. I highly recommend doing that — it’s powerful.

5. I stopped believing my environment didn’t matter until I reached a certain level of success

As someone with outer vision cognition in Human Design, my environment drastically influences my creativity and productivity — yet I kept operating from a belief that I would optimize my home once the money came.

The truth was:

My home didn’t need to wait for success — my success needed my home.

I wasn’t raised with systems, so I was constantly bouncing between piles of laundry, dishes, clutter, and then trying to work in the cracks. My nervous system was caught between chaos and pressure.

I shifted to small, consistent systems.

Daily resets. Delegating to my kids.

Doing tasks when they’re small instead of waiting for them to turn into monsters.

And yes — making my bed every day. It seems small, but the impact is not.

All of these shifts were born from the free course (I forget the name) I completed in this group from August through September (before the LFG rebrand). I have not personally gone through the new Launchpad curriculum because I have been intentionally on a strict no-consumption rule (detailed above), but I trust it is a refinement of the principles that shifted me the most.

What specifically changed me was getting really comfortable being an apprentice. I had to stop pretending I had already arrived at “magician,” and instead surrender to apprenticeship — optimize it, honor it, and actually learn from it. When I got clear on my identity and values, everything else aligned. That clarity led to being more confident about the results I create, the transformation my clients can expect, and how to structure my container in a way that made sense.

When I looked at building my own Skool, I genuinely studied the elements of this group that resonated most — the simplicity, the staged progression, the clarity of outcome — and I created my own version of that inside my niche. I created my version of “quantum codes,” my version of the stages for my clients and niche, and I built out a free course that is packed with value because that felt congruent with the kind of coach and teacher I want to be. I felt the micro moments of trust Dan created with just the structure of this group and took that strategy into my own.

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