Jul 29 • Support Request
Triggering conversations with people while in recovery
Today while I was talking to one of my friends she called me an attention seeker because I was having a craving for alcohol which I I haven’t drank in a while and she thought I was doing it for attention I then explain how getting paid today is a trigger for me seeing my son who passed shpula tirned 47 months old today and i was grtting intense cravings she said “you gotta stop telling people you wanna buy alcohol. Why would you buy alcohol when you’re 19 months sober?” Which was a valid question I then said to her “No I’m not an attention seeker thanks you have no idea how hard to it is to stay clean nor how hard it is to stay sober don’t come at me saying I’m a attention seeking I’m doing my darnest to stay alive in a mind that wants to die” she said “Still we both know ur not gonna drink so stop trying to worry people it’s not hard not to drink I do it every day just smoke weed and cigarettes” then I said “well you’re not an addict I am” she replied with “neither are you hence why you don’t drink you’re an ex addict now” and that was when I realize she wasn’t gonna get the point that cravings are cravings and they don’t need validation for them to happen I also realize she wasn’t going to understand why I was coming from being an addict because she didn’t understand that I was still an addict even though I didn’t use or drink and I told her “she was pissing me off And I couldn’t cope I was gonna remove myself instead of explaining it to someone who clearly didn’t get it” she said “what I’m pissing you off cause I told you not to drink” I said “ no you just don’t understand addiction and how things work for us” I didn’t have the energy to explain it to her that addiction doesn’t discriminate and neither does Recovery but even in even recovery you’re still an addict you’re just Recovering then I sent the quote “for most of us sobriety is not a one and done decision it is one we have to make over and over again” she then replied saying “ buy the alcohol then if you want you’re old enough but you won’t be ruining anyone’s life but your own” I said ”it’s not the point it’s a craving” she said “so fight it your strong just don’t drink it’s your choice make the right one don’t you have AA support?” I said idk if there is AA support in town she suggested buying myself a gift so I said I might try that she ended the convo saying “my dad was an alcoholic and it killed him” I replied “my dads an alcoholic too and it might kill him as well” then she said good night her ending the conversation like that gave me a better understanding of why she was acting the way she was when she was criticizing my addiction and Recovery weak points i’ve come to the realization that most likely if she doesn’t understand addiction because she hasn’t been to it and it’s probably best jusl disengage conversations about Recovery with her because she doesn’t understand and would probably be the best of the block her for the hurtful criticism about my recovery ❤️🩹
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Triggering conversations with people while in recovery
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