Hey Jag, I have almost crippling fear when faced with authority and people above my station, auch as police, but also it took me years to not feel the same thing when my wife was angry and dissatisfied with me. My father used to be pretty explosive and authoritative when I was young, so I attribute it to that. Also I have this feeling of inadequacy and feel deep shame about myself and practically remember every embarassing thing I've done in my life which weights me down, including cheating on my wife. She forgave me, but I am struggling hard with forgiving myself, leading to all kind of problems. Any insight is appreciated and thank you for what you are doing.