💡 You know what I mean. No... O.k. Ever meet someone who sounds polite, but the undertone stings? That’s the “nice-nasty” at play. It shows up as sugar-coated criticism, backhanded compliments, or a smile with daggers underneath. It makes me suspicious of intent, others simply uncomfortable. It’s not just about personality — it’s a self-esteem issue. 👉 Aggression wrapped in niceness is often a shield for insecurity. I know this to be true I was the champ. Yes, I was trying to hurt you and I knew it. 🎯This week I'm going to talk about Self esteem.🎯 Resource: Worksheet Case Study: My words were polished, but my tone dripped with superiority. “Oh, you did it that way? Interesting.” I wasn’t cruel outright — but everyone felt smaller around me. The truth? My self-esteem was shaky. I didn’t trust that my worth stood on its own, so I armored myself with subtle jabs to stay “above” others. Always on the lookout for an intruder that could bust my huge ego bubble. Not today sir....... 🎯 How to Recognize “Nice-Nasty” in yourself. 1. Compliments that cut: “That dress looks good… for your age.” 2. Polite tone, disrespectful content or reverse. It leaves you feeling smaller, not supported. 3. Sarcasm passed off as “just joking.” 4. A smile that doesn’t match the eyes. 5. Feeling like you have to be armed and dangerous, at all times. 6. Listening for ammo not understanding. 7. Deciding that your past dictates hurting others. 8. Inconsistent body language — smile + dismissive tone. 🔥 4 Action Steps to Stop Being (or Tolerating) “Nice-Nasty” 1. Pause before speaking. Ask: “Is my tone empowering or diminishing?” 2. Name the pattern. If you hear it, calmly say: “That felt dismissive — can we try again?” 3. Practice kind directness. Replace passive-aggressive hints with clear, respectful requests. 4. Strengthen esteem. Daily self-acceptance practice reduces the need to tear others down. 5. What is my intention (honestly). What is the speakers intention? Ask if your not clear. 6. Be honest about your feelings and know what they are.