When aligning with your true self feels unsafe 🌿

Hey Tribe🌟 I was journaling today and talking with some people about procrastination, and something came up on surface once again and I thought Id share it with you 🤍

A lot of our resistance we feel, when we know we should take the leap or the next step or the first move, isn’t laziness. It’s a nervous system that feels unsafe with growth.

I’ve experienced this myself. I always had big visions for my life. I didn’t want the average path. I wanted authenticity, depth, freedom. But every time I got close to stepping into that version of me, I managed somehow to pull back.

I would hesitate in conversations. Dim myself around powerful people. Overthink being fully honest. Feel small right when I should’ve expanded.

It felt like there was a ceiling above me.

And then, by doing my inner work I realised this: my ambition was strong, but my inherited beliefs were stronger. like: “Don’t be too much. Don’t outshine. Stay safe. Stay acceptable.”

So my nervous system did what it was trained to do. It protected me from expansion.

Growth threatened my old identity. That tension became anxiety. The anxiety became hesitation. And the hesitation looked like procrastination.

This doesn't just affect business or our professional path as it might feel at first. It affects huge parts of our lives, like speaking confidently, attracting the right partner, going after your purpose, holding your ground in powerful rooms.

Your nervous system will always act in alignment with what you believe is safe.

So here’s something to ask yourself: "what part of me believes becoming my true self is unsafe?"

That belief might be the ceiling.

I’m curious — where do you notice yourself shrinking right now? 🤍

would love to hear from you🫶

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