hard to accept but true… · High Vibe Tribe

Aaron Doughty

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Dec '25 (edited) • General discussion

hard to accept but true…

Want to hear something that is hard to accept but is true for most people?

we are more like our parents than we think.

I know it sucks to admit this or see this

the same things you don’t like about mom and dad are patterns you either rebel against or embrace

and even if you rebel and don’t like it…

the rebelling against is still being controlled by it

and what we judge in them is what we judge in ourselves

I’ve been reading some books on inner child healing and psychology that have been super insightful for me with both my work and as well as how I can apply it to my own life

I’m also going to be going to a transformation retreat later in the year many of my friends have been through that is specifically on healing the child mother and father dynamic

and last night I did a meditation before bed connecting to my mom and dad…

to when they were 12.

Can you imagine having a conversation with your mom and dad when you were 12 and they were too?

What emotions would they feel?

What challenges do they have?

This was super insightful for me

I realized that due to my moms childhood… she felt TRAPPED

she had to run away around 16 years old due to a certain type of abuse that was happening in the house

she felt lonely and scared and didn’t know what to do at 12 years old

she had a passive mom that allowed what was happening to happen

And I found it very interesting growing up…

I felt trapped too

having the controlling ex step mom in my life until about 16 as well

and a passive parent that at some level allowed it to happen too

I’ve never realized how much like my mom I might be

she is someone who had to fight for freedom… like I did

she is someone who probably felt avoidant of relationships and didn't want to be trapped in them

similar to how I have felt in the past too

she had a hard time trusting people due to her childhood

and I can see that much of the same type of energy that was in her childhood was in mine too

having this experience allowed me to gain more clarity around my patterns and to realize that it didn’t all start with me

Many of my moms patterns I inherited from her and had to integrate

and also I received alot of the amazing things about my mom

she was great at getting people hyped up and excited about things she was into

she was great at marketing and was a radio talk show host for a while too

she had a quirky sense of humor too

as much as I received the heavy stuff…

I also received the good stuff

the person I have become has also been largely due to my childhood patterning

maybe I wouldn’t be doing what I do for a living if it weren’t for her

I am certain of that

I’m thinking of making this guided meditation for people to do

Would that be something you are interested in?

If so respond to this in the comments below, “YES” and I’ll consider it if there is enough demand

What awesome characteristics did you receive as a result of your childhood?

and what patterns can you see that you had… where also in your parents life as a kid too?

Talk to you soon!

Much love,

Aaron Doughty

P.s also fyi I am going to be running a 3 day Core Pattern Breakthrough Lab in January to help you get to the core pattern that is subconsciously running your life and transform it.

More details coming out soon :)

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