Day9：My Values and Standards in Partnership

Homework

List your core relationship values:

I value a relationship where both partners do not run away from difficult conversations.Calmness is essential to me. Emotional regulation protects trust and strengthens connection.Mutual respect is foundational. Without respect, anger grows and relationships deteriorate.When mistakes happen, we take responsibility, regulate ourselves, and return to the conversation with clarity.We choose accountability over ego, fear, or attachment.If the relationship becomes unhealthy and repair is not possible, we part with dignity rather than stay out of fear.

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Define your standards in dating/partnership:

I expect my boundaries to be respected from the beginning.If someone moves too quickly, pushes for intimacy prematurely, or ignores my comfort level, I step back.

I expect respectful language and behavior.Arrogance or superiority toward a partner is unacceptable.

I observe how someone treats others, especially service staff and people in vulnerable positions.

I require consistency between words and actions.I expect at least 80 percent alignment over time.

I expect emotional stability and maturity.I do not engage in reactive or fear-based dynamics.

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Identify your non-negotiable boundaries:

Trust and mutual respect are essential in partnership.

I do not stay in relationships where trust is repeatedly compromised.

I do not accept ongoing dishonesty, infidelity, or manipulative behavior.

If repair is not demonstrated through consistent action, I choose to leave.

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Once complete:

Share it in the group and declare your new standards:

I choose calm, respectful, and emotionally stable partnership.I expect consistency, accountability, and mutual respect.If trust cannot be sustained, I walk away.I choose conscious love, not fear-based attachment.

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