I used to think healing was something we finished. That once we processed a wound, cried the tears, forgave the people and made peace with the story, it was over—wrapped up, done, behind us.
But the medicine has a way of showing us what we can’t—or won’t—see on our own.
And sometimes, what it shows us feels like betrayal.
Because there we are—cracked open again. Sitting with something we thought we already faced, already fixed, already released.
But here’s what I’ve come to believe...
When an old wound resurfaces, it’s not because we didn’t heal it the first time.
It’s because we’re ready to heal it deeper.
The first time we process something, we meet it with the wisdom, experience and capacity we have in that moment—and that’s enough. It’s enough to take the edge off, to start the work, to soften the sharpness of it.
But growth changes us.
The work we do expands us.
We gain more wisdom, more insight, more tools and when the medicine brings us back to something, it’s because we’re ready to meet it from this new perspective...with more courage, more compassion
and more clarity.
It’s not punishment.
It’s permission.
Permission to go deeper.
To unravel the parts we couldn’t touch before.
To let go of what we weren’t strong enough to carry then—but are strong enough to face now.
It’s easy to feel like we’re failing when we find ourselves back in the same pain.
But what if we’re not failing?
What if we’re being invited—to step into the kind of healing that only comes with time, with growth, with knowing ourselves better than we ever did before?
So when the medicine takes us back, maybe it’s not asking us to relive the past.
Maybe it’s asking us to reclaim ourselves from it.
And that’s the work.
To let it hurt again.
To let it show us the layers we didn’t even know were there.
To trust that revisiting doesn’t mean regressing—it means we’re strong enough now to handle what we couldn’t handle then.
This is how we heal.
Layer by layer.
Moment by moment.
Until there’s nothing left to keep us from being free.
I'm here for it - are you?
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