If you look at the hawkins scale of emotional frequency any vibration lower than Neutrality can become, or is our shadow self,if not processed properly upon exposure and becomes a trauma. We push that feeling away,we distract ourselves,we ruminate it over and over in our mind creating attachment. These emotions are courage,pride,anger, desire,fear, grief,apathy,guilt and shame ,lust.
They are all helpful in navigating this 3D world we call earth. But that attachment remains until we neutralize it by feeling, observing,not reacting but accepting and seeing it for what it is. But these attachments get transferred lifetime over lifetime as we reincarnate. And all our caregivers as children unconsciously program us with their personal traumas and beliefs creating more attachments.
When I had my spiritual awakening these attachments manifested in my reality for me to clear.It was challenge after challenge.I was being presented with everything I feared. Financial loss, family separation,Job instability being verbally attacked by love ones, things constantly breaking.And I could even see negative entities enter people around me,could see it in their eyes and behavior and the spirit crushing words. The feeling was that the God I had a relationship with had abandoned me. I was in constant fight or flight and now a victim and in constant fear. The only way out was to transfer my energy from fear to faith. From victim to empowered.And for me it started when I asked for help from God and surrendered to trying to fix my reality. With that I found a class that taught me how to understand what was going on. When a situation occurs that triggers us.A lesson to heal!! We instantly feel the energy in the body, for me it's my chest. We instantly have that time to give the situation a new meaning,and make it a advantage. If we don't the ego through the amygdala sets the attachment to the list of traumas we have stored. And then the mind chatter turns negative or low vibrational creating more of what we don't want.
Example, Spouse is cheating on you.Instant feelings, abandoned ,anger,hate,guilt,fear, betrayal. Instead observe those emotions and say "and This is good because now I have the time to work on myself, to see where I have to improve my shortcomings to keep a loving relationship, that we we not meant to be in a long union but lessons for soul growth."
The important thing is not to let the ego mind,gather strength by fueling and attaching to the thoughts coming in .They are not you!! The quicker you get that advantage running it helps the detachment and suffering. This is challenging work ,but as you do it your faith increases and you stop taking it personally.
And as I got better at it I've seen very challenging situations be presented to me, that I did not react and attach to the negative feelings and you watch them dissolve and magically disappear.
We do not kill the shadow,it is part of us. We have to make it right sized and not in control of us. As we become the observer ,seek truth and let our higher consciousness run the show everything will come into balance.
Thank you for letting me share , Gregory