Parents vs Coaches in Youth Sports In a perfect world, it should never come to that. Unfortunately, we all know this is not a perfect world, and things are not always as cut and dry as we would like for them to be. Conflicting Instructions: “Coach vs Parent” “Let’s talk about the first problem: the conflicting directions.” “The coach says, ‘Spread the floor.’ The parent yells, ‘DRIVE IT!’ The coach says, ‘Slow it down.’ The parent yells, ‘SHOOT!’” Meanwhile, Dad is releasing a tirade of expletives on the Refs to let them know what a terrible job they’re doing and, that he could do a better job than they could .. and the entire gym can hear him … including the kid on the floor. “Now let me ask you a question…” “How old is the kid trying to process all that?” “The last time I checked, we don’t teach advanced multitasking under emotional pressure in third grade.” “What happens is simple: Kids doesn’t get better… They get confused.” “And when kids are confused, they stop playing freely. They stop trusting themselves. And eventually… they stop enjoying the game.” That can happen to older players as well when Coaches are not careful…. That’s a topic for another day. “Now let’s talk about the refs.” Let’s discuss the pros and cons of yelling at, and often verbally abusing the Refs. “First … if yelling at refs actually worked… I could understand it, and this portion wouldn’t be necessary, and there would be fewer technical fouls.” “Here’s the part that often gets missed.” “When adults scream at referees, kids don’t hear .. ‘bad call.’ They see examples being set by people in authority… the coach .. the parent .. the people they respect and look up to. They hear and they see .. ‘this is how we handle frustration.’” “They learn that mistakes deserve public humiliation. They learn that authority is something you fight, not something you respect.” “And here’s the quiet truth…” “Kids don’t remember the call. They remember “That’s how they did it and say “So, That’s how I’m going to do it”

“Sit-Rep” .. No.37 Situation Analysis .. Factoring in someone else’s Journey .. Making a slight Change of Course - a Bucket-List! The Journey continues…! Footnote.. Yes, I had to take 💊 at 05:55 this morning!🤷🏽‍♂️ #basketball #cancer #hofstra #booktok #coaching #usarmy #fulda #lifetimefitness #referee #lifetime #quakenbrueck

Discussions about the pros and cons of "Involvement". The series will continue for a few weeks. I hope you will jump in.

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Let’s talk about Parents and Coaches in Youth Sports. There’s a lot to unpack in this one, so it will probably take a few sessions, but it’s worth the time for discussion. Join us on Wednesdays at 12:00pm (Central) You can join live or checkout and comment on the posted sessions! See you then, Coach