Loyalty is a noble trait until it becomes a weapon of self-destruction.
You've made silent vows to remain the same person so your family, your old friends, or your industry peers don't feel threatened by your expansion. You are keeping your frequency artificially low so you don't outshine the room.
This is a profound violation of your own sovereignty.
Take a hard look at the relationships that require you to shrink.
Ask yourself: "Who am I being loyal to at the direct expense of my own evolution?"
Are you staying in a dynamic purely out of history, guilt, or the fear of being perceived as difficult?
You know you cannot maintain a high frequency while holding hands with someone who demands you stay small.