Most people go through life operating on the “Be → Do → Have” model backwards — thinking it’s “Have → Do → Be” — and that’s why they stay stuck.
Here’s the difference:
The common (wrong) model: Have → Do → Be
- Belief: “Once I have something, I can do the things that will make me be who I want to be.”
- Example: “Once I have more money, I’ll work out, eat better, and be a confident person.”
- Problem: You never actually get started, because you’re waiting for the resources or circumstances before changing.
The effective (correct) model: Be → Do → Have
- Belief: “First, I become the person who has the mindset, habits, and identity of what I want. Then I do the things that person would do. That leads me to have the results I want.”
- Example: “I am a disciplined, fit person. So I do workouts daily and eat clean. As a result, I have a strong body and high energy.”
Why it works:
- Your identity drives your behavior, and your behavior produces your results.
- If you start with “being,” you align your self-image with your goals — making the “doing” natural and the “having” inevitable.
- This is why personal development focuses on who you are becoming, not just what you’re chasing.