Mar 19 • Little Gems
Flipping the narrative
I had two experiences today that I wanted to share with you. Thought they might help people to see that flipping the narrative can really support your growth.
The first one was with one of the liveries at the yard I'm on. She had been working on solo hacking. I've been helping her with her confidence. She set off today with determination. She came back deflated as she had set herself the goal of going round the block and didn't get that far.
I worked with her on a reframe to focus on how far she did get. We can inadvertently set ourselves up for failure by making the goal too big. She completely ignored all the good things that happened and focused on the fact she didn't achieve the goal.
I asked her how she could break the goal down into smaller chunks next time. The brain loves ticking things off, so by making the goals smaller, we become a goal achieving machine!
This was reflected in the second experience. I've been meeting up with a good friend to ride out. She wanted to work on cantering in an open space. It's been a while since we met, so when I asked if she wanted to canter, her response was no. So we had several trots. I suggested that if she felt she wanted to canter, to ask her horse. I kept my horse in trot. She had two lovely canters.
Cantering was the stretch goal. She was thrilled with what she'd achieved.
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