DAY 8 — Releasing the need to earn love💓

Hanna Urban

17d • Challenge

This one is big. I want you to really sit with it 🌸

How much of your life have you spent trying to earn love?

Working harder than you needed to.

Being more helpful than you had energy for.

Shrinking yourself so you weren't too much.

Saying yes when every part of you meant no.

Making yourself useful, easy, low maintenance — just so people would stay.

Exhausting, isn't it.

Because underneath all of that is a belief that most of us picked up so early we don't even remember learning it. And it goes something like this — love is conditional. I have to be a certain way to deserve it. If I stop performing, people will leave.

And I want to say something about that belief.

It was never true.

You did not earn your way into existence.

You arrived here whole and worthy before you ever did a single thing.

Before you were helpful or productive or good or easy.

You were already enough.

The people who truly love you — they don't love you for your output.

They love you for you.

And if someone only stays when you perform? That's not love. That's a transaction.

And you deserve so much more than that.

Today's practice — just notice.

Every time today you do something primarily to earn approval or keep someone happy at the expense of yourself, just notice it.