Last night, I noticed a pattern of thoughts that kept me up till 3 am. It was a feeling that I needed to do more and rest was not allowed right now. I realized it was a learned response from childhood. In order to feel safe I felt I needed to keep my mother “happy”. One of the ways was by acts of service like making fancy Vietnamese coffee for her at 1am because she has work at 4 am even though it’s a school day it was the only time I can really spend with her. I learned at a young age if I do things that help others life even though it’s self sacrifice that’s when I am worthy to receive love and there will be peace that’s what my youthful brain thought. Now I am learning that i can be loved by just being me and I don’t have to sacrifice myself or do anything for others. I am worthy of unconditional love and respect because I am a human being and that’s enough to receive love. I also accept my emotions the sadness, anger and shame because it’s all telling me where I need more love in my life and I can give that to myself. I am so grateful for this journey and witnessing my soul in this human condition I can feel pain and happiness. It’s all beautiful and sad at the same time but feelings only last for a moment and I choose to go back to my truth and that the peace I can feel in my body. Then I was able to relax and go to sleep.
If you’re on a journey of healing and reclaiming yourself you’re not alone. We are beautiful and we are safe to be our truest self .
With love and light,
Stephanie
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this video was talk about reclaiming your inner worth and how this pattern was learned.