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Easier Ways is here to help a person stay sober, trust their own wisdom, and build a life they want without the need to rely upon traditional recovery methods. That said, there is nothing here that will contradict what is found in any support program. At Easier Ways, we know there’s no single path to sobriety. What works for one person might not work for another, and that’s exactly how it should be. Therefore, we respect whatever helps someone find their footing. That’s why we’ve taken a deep dive into the different approaches out there and created a resource center to help people explore their options and figure out what fits for them. And even though every method has its own language and focus, all of them rest on a few shared foundations: honesty, open-mindedness, a willingness to start… and as you go, humility and commitment. Then there are a few things that don’t always get talked about, but when you step back and take an objective look, especially through the lens of behavioral science, they start to stand out pretty clearly. 🟢 The thing a person trying to change? It’s almost never the real problem. It’s a symptom, a sign that something deeper is asking for attention. 🟢 Relapse isn’t some kind of personal failure. More often than not, it just means the help the person had didn’t reach the real need underneath. 🟢 Every one of us has core psychological needs. The need to feel safe. To experience variety and adventure. To feel appreciated. To love and be loved. To avoid pain and experience joy. And when those needs aren’t met? We’ll do whatever we can; sometimes in ways that help, sometimes in ways that hurt, to try and meet them. that’s when life can start to feel complicated, and overwhelming. Unsafe. 🟢 Every single one of us runs on patterns; patterns of thought, patterns of behavior. One of the deepest habitual patterns is the feeling that the present moment is not good enough. 🟢 Everyone is capable of change. In fact, we do it all the time. We change our minds, our opinions, our plans. But the trickier part isn’t surface-level change. It’s the deeper stuff, the beliefs we’ve been carrying for years about who we are and how life works. A lot of those beliefs made sense at some point. They helped us feel safe, in control, or at least able to make sense of things. But over time, what once protected us can start to hold us back. The challenge is, we tend to see what we expect to see. Thanks to confirmation bias, we accept the evidence that supports our old story and ignore the stuff that doesn’t fit. Real change starts when we’re willing to get curious about those old beliefs, to ask, “Is this actually helping me now?” And if it’s not, to make room for something new through insight. When we see differently, we live differently.
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🟣 WELCOME TO EASIER WAYS; PLEASE READ THIS
After hanging out with and learning from a bunch of successful people, one thing stands out: the key to success is to make it fun! Therefore, the primary purpose of Easier Way is to help intelligent people connect with their inner wisdom so that they can stay sober, have fun with good friends, and make a good living doing what they love. And when I talk about staying sober, I mean letting go of any harmful habits that prevent us from enjoying life. You do not need to identify as having an affliction that would qualify you for a 12-step group. This is designed for anyone who wants to improve their life. You are invited to join this community and connect with like-minded individuals seeking a safe space to express themselves. Our online platform is about personal growth, prosperity, and supporting each other. It's the perfect place for free spirits and non-conformists working to overcome challenges, unleash their potential, and live on their own terms. And typically the people who benefit the most from their time in online communities understand that they get back what they put in! So please, share your insights. Encourage and thank others who share what's working for them. We would appreciate that you answer questions if you can and connect people. Whenever possible, please share resources and things that helped you. And lastly, the guidelines of our community... The Dos - Be Kind: Use respectful language to recognize and appreciate different perspectives and cultures. Communicate thoughtfully and purposefully. Remember that everyone's path to healing is different. - Be Inclusive: Let's embrace our differences and appreciate each other's unique life experiences. Diversity enriches our community. - Be Committed: The collective consciousness is Easier. We are better when you are involved and share your thoughts, but please do your best to share your opinions respectfully without giving unwanted advice. The Do Nots - No Harassment or Insults: Do not use sexist, racist, or discriminatory language. Harassment, threats, and the spreading of conspiracy theories are not tolerated. Refrain from sexual advances or violent language. - No Unsolicited Advice: Offer advice only when requested.
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Why this community was created
Some people learn to survive by keeping others at arm’s length, looking strong on the outside while quietly fearing the risk of being vulnerable. For many, alcohol becomes the shortcut. It dulls grief and fear while amplifying confidence and charm, creating the illusion of connection without the risk of being seen. But what begins as a coping mechanism eventually becomes a cage, trapping them in a quiet war between the person they pretend to be and the emotions they’ve never allowed themselves to feel. For me, that cage was what I called hell on earth. Fortunately, I found a way out. And for that, I am eternally grateful. It’s why I set an intention every day to calm my busy mind, soften my heart, and be of service whenever I can to those suffering like I once did. I’ll never be able to pay back the people who helped me, but I can pay it forward with an attitude of gratitude. And that is why this community was started.
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Michael Shoeman Talks About Sins of The Father
This incident happened a few months ago. It is very similar to some of the other stories I've shared, but somehow, I have lately been finding the universal relevance in these interactions with my kids. Micah dressed up as a ghost with the intention of scaring me. I chucked and pretended to be scared. He threw the costume down and was legitimately and visibly very angry. I asked him what was wrong. "I have been trying for THREE YEARS to scare you for real! I have been failing over and over again!" This tantrum genuinely concerned me. So, when he took the moment to breathe I asked him, "Why is it so important to you that you scare me, Micah?" "There you go being all wise again, Daddy! Your words and questions don't help me. I am a failure!" With that response I realized I was genuinely frightened. I started asking myself some intimidating questions: How much am I responsible for this insecurity? In what ways might I have role modeled thinking of myself as a failure? Did my son inherit something about me that I was afraid to look at? Is this something 'wisdom' can't really help or fix? For the first time in years, I was genuinely in fear. No anger. No sadness. No shame or guilt. Just genuine fear. "Micah. I want to say something. This is not me trying to be 'wise', but I want to be completely honest with you. At this moment I am really scared. What scares me the most is that you are beating yourself up for my mistakes. It scares me that you are being so hard on yourself because it reminds me of how hard I have been on myself my whole life. It really scares me that at eight years old you are being so rough on yourself. So you have succeeded in scaring me without even trying. No, it's not about being afraid of a ghost or a demon. And, Micah, let's be honest, I am not scared of things like that. You have instead tapped a primal fear in me...that I am failing as a father. Because I love you more than anything. It hurts me to see that you have inherited my habits of being a tyrant to myself."
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