10d • General discussion
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I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately…
How every time I tried to plan my way out of a mess, I just ended up more exhausted.
I had plans for everything.Plans to cut back.Plans to get it together.Plans to be “normal.”
And none of them really worked.
What actually changed things for me was stopping the planning…and just setting an intention.
Not a big one.Not a dramatic one.
Just something like—“I don’t want to live like this anymore.”
Notimeline..no rules No pressure.
And once I did that…things started lining up.
Not perfectly.Not all at once.
But I stopped fighting myself.I stopped negotiating every decision.I stopped needing certainty before taking the next step.
I’d ask myself,“How do I want to feel today?”
And that was enough.
Calmer.Clearer.Less numb.More honest.
I didn’t decide what sobriety had to look like.I didn’t decide anything about forever.
I just decided I didn’t want to keep escaping myself.
And weirdly…when I stopped obsessing over not drinking,the obsession started to fade.
When I stopped controlling everything,I started trusting myself.
I think plans kept me stuck because they were really about fear.Fear of losing control.Fear of feeling.Fear of not knowing what comes next.
An intention doesn’t do that. It just points you in a direction.
You can wander. You can pause you can course-correct.
You’re not failing youre just moving.
So if you’re sober curious and tired of extremes…maybe don’t plan your whole life.
Just set an intention…and walk.
That’s it.
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