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Why I teach what I teach
I need to share something with you all.
On Friday morning, I got confirmation from a specialist that my mobility issues aren’t temporary. After a year of hoping physio or surgery might eventually get me back to “normal,” I’ve been told this is my reality now.
The working diagnosis is hEDS (hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) - something that’s apparently been there my whole adult life, quietly causing chronic pain, slow healing, and a dozen other symptoms that doctors kept dismissing as “your labs look fine.”
I’m 10 months into using mobility aids. I spent 5 months on crutches, and the last 5 months I’ve been in a wheelchair about 90% of the time. I can still walk, but it’s slow and painful, and where I live isn’t wheelchair accessible anyway - so most days I’m choosing between pain or immobility, neither of which is a real choice.
I’m also ADHD and autistic. I’m a solo mum to a 13-year-old with complex needs who lives at a specialist school in North Wales (I’m in Plymouth - that’s a 16+ hour round trip every 6 weeks). I’m studying for my psychology degree. And I’m rebuilding this business for the second time in 5 years.
Here’s why I’m telling you this:
Four months ago, when I started BBS, I made a choice. I could have rushed it - thrown together a quick offer, hustled hard with paid ads and hype, pushed myself to bring in money fast. I know how to do that. I did it the first time around.
But that approach almost killed me.
Literally. I burned out so badly I had to stop everything.
So this time, I’m building differently. Slowly. With my capacity at the center of every decision. Group work instead of 1:1 until I know what I can sustain. Free offers before paid. Small, manageable steps instead of sprints I can’t maintain.
This isn’t just a framework I teach. This is how I’m surviving.
When I talk about building a business that works with your life restrictions, I’m not speaking theoretically.
I’m living on one income while my business costs us money in platform fees and subscriptions. I’m balancing medication that reduces my pain but knocks me unconscious. I’m working around a body that won’t cooperate and a medical system that moves at a glacial pace.
When I talk about capacity-first business building, it’s because I’ve learned - the hard way, multiple times - that you cannot sustain something built on pushing through, ignoring limits, and hoping willpower will carry you.
When I talk about creating something sustainable for women recovering from burnout, it’s because I am also that woman. Right now. Again.
One traumatic pivot after another has been the story of my life. Solo caring for a child who almost put me in hospital. Forcing the system to find him proper support. Building a business, burning out, losing my mobility, rebuilding again.
And every time, I’ve had to choose: do I push through and break, or do I work with what I actually have and build something that lasts?
I’m choosing the latter. Even though it’s slower. Even though it means more financial pressure now. Even though some days I want to just hustle my way to quick money because at least that would ease the guilt of being dependent on my partner’s income.
But I won’t. Because I know where that leads.
So if you’re here wondering if you should be doing more, pushing harder, hustling faster - I see you. I feel that too. That voice is loud, especially when you’re neurodivergent, especially when you’ve spent your life having to prove you’re struggling “enough” to deserve support.
But we’re building something different here. We’re building businesses that work WITH our lives, not against them. That honor our capacity instead of demanding we override it. That let us survive the long game instead of burning bright and crashing hard.
This is why I teach what I teach.
Because I’m living it with you.
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Why I teach what I teach
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