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When did you last get the wrong end of the stick?
You will find this story in the anger management course, but I actually remembered it incorrectly.
OMG, guess what, I am not perfect. The true story is really based on a TV advert first for The Guardian Newspaper. I added the video below for you to watch.
My memory said...
Years ago, there was a famous newspaper advert (actually a TV advert first) , and I've never forgotten it.
Opening shot: an old lady walking down the road, arms full of shopping, purse balanced on top. Next shot: a skinhead. Shaved head, braces, big boots. And he's running straight at her.
Everything in you says mugging. The advert was cut deliberately to make you think it.
Then the camera pans out. Scaffolding is collapsing above her, and he's running to push her out of the way. He's saving her life.
Here's the point. We don't see people and situations as they are. We see them through filters, built from everything that's ever happened to us. Someone's tone of voice, the look on their face, the way they're dressed, and we've decided what's happening before anything has actually happened. Psychologists call it projection. I call it getting the wrong end of the stick at speed.
And a lot of anger starts exactly there. Not with what was said, but with what we decided it meant.
So here's this week's experiment: next time you feel the heat rising at something someone said or did, ask one question first. "What else could this mean?" The driver who cut you up/off might be rushing to a hospital.
What if the text from your partner with no kisses might just be someone busy.
When did you last get the wrong end of the stick?
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When did you last get the wrong end of the stick?
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