Ever notice that your arguments are reruns? Same opening lines, same middle, same ending. There's a reason, and once you see it, you can't unsee it. It's called Karpman's Drama Triangle, and it has three roles: Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer. Here's how it plays out. You said you'd be home at five. It's gone seven, and you didn't call. You walk in, and there they are: "What time do you call this?" In that moment, they're the Persecutor, and you're the Victim. So you fire back: "I've just walked through the door, you haven't even asked how I am." And look at that, you've swapped. Now you're the Persecutor. It escalates, gets louder, and someone storms off. But it doesn't end there, does it? Twenty minutes later, one of you goes back to smooth it over, the Rescuer, and gets "well, it's so typical of you", and around the triangle we go again. If you look at the scripts of most soap operas, this is all they are. Persecutor, Victim, Rescuer, rotating for decades. The scriptwriters know something about us. The way out isn't winning the argument. It's recognising the game and refusing to play. The moment you can think "hang on, we're in the triangle", you've already stepped off it, because you're watching the pattern instead of being caught inside it. Which role do you slip into most: Persecutor, Victim or Rescuer? Be honest. Most of us have a favourite, and knowing yours is half the battle.