18d • Course Discussion - UYB
Lesson 1.4 Discussion — The ADHD Iceberg 🧠
In this lesson, we looked at the ADHD Iceberg.
The idea is simple:
People often judge the bit they can see.
The lateness.
The forgetting.
The unfinished tasks.
The emotional reactions.
The mess.
The inconsistency.
The distractions.
But they don’t always see what’s happening underneath.
The shame.
The overwhelm.
The mental noise.
The emotional effort.
The masking.
The low self-trust.
The constant feeling that you’re trying harder than it looks.
This matters because so many ADHD adults get judged by the visible behaviour, without anyone understanding the hidden effort behind it.
And after a while, you can start judging yourself the same way.
You only see what didn’t get done.
You forget how much energy you spent trying to hold everything together.
Your turn 💬
What’s one thing underneath your ADHD iceberg that people in your life don’t really see or understand?
You could share:
- something you hide or mask
- something that takes more effort than people realise
- something people misinterpret
- something you wish others understood better
- something you’ve blamed yourself for
Example:
People see me being late, but they don’t see the panic, time confusion, and mental chaos that happens before I even leave the house.
Or:
People see me forgetting things, but they don’t see how much shame I feel when I realise I’ve let someone down again.
Only share what you’re comfortable sharing.
And if someone else’s comment feels familiar, reply to them. Sometimes being understood by people who genuinely get it can take some of the weight off.
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Lesson 1.4 Discussion — The ADHD Iceberg 🧠
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