One of the people who has had the biggest impact on how I think about motivation, habits, and personal growth is Mel Robbins. (And yes, @Bill Widmer too, but this post is about Mel, sorry ๐) I've read her books, listened to countless podcast episodes, and followed her work for years. She also has ADHD and was diagnosed later in life, which is probably one of the reasons her advice resonates with me so much. Whether you love self-development or usually roll your eyes at it, here are five ideas from her books that genuinely stuck with me. 1๏ธโฃ Motivation is a myth Waiting until you feel like doing something is a losing strategy. Mel argues that most of our decisions are driven by emotions, not logic. The problem? Our feelings rarely align with our long-term goals. That's why learning to act before you feel ready is often the difference between staying stuck and making progress. She calls this learning to use a "push" to get yourself moving before your brain talks you out of it. (The 5 Second Rule) 2๏ธโฃ Most adults are just eight-year-olds in bigger bodies A surprising number of adults never develop strong emotional regulation skills. Think about behaviors like giving someone the silent treatment, sulking, or expecting others to read your mind. Those reactions often come from the same emotional place as a frustrated child seeking attention. One idea from The Let Them Theory that really stayed with me is that emotions naturally pass if we don't keep feeding them. (The Let Them Theory) 3๏ธโฃ Sometimes a glitch turns into glory โจ When Mel's first book, The 5 Second Rule, launched in 2017, Amazon temporarily flagged it as unavailable because the sudden surge of orders from an unknown author looked suspicious. Since readers couldn't get the print version, many switched to the audiobook instead. What looked like a disaster ended up helping the audiobook become one of Audible's biggest successes of the year. A good reminder that not every setback is actually a setback. (The High 5 Habit)