Grayson was hypnotized by his favorite show. Suddenly, Mrs. Gray walks in and says, "cut the TV off. It's time to eat" She expected him to move immediately, especially since she made his favorite lasagna 😋 But he doesn't move immediately, so she tells him again "cut the TV off. I said it's time for dinner" The show is about to end in 5 minutes. So he stands up, but still lingers, trying to catch the last little bit. At first, Mrs. Gray thought he would come running to the kitchen with a big smile on his face. But when he didn't...she started feeling some type of way. A few minutes later, they both ended up frustrated as she returned demanding that he cut the TV off NOW! Can you relate to this scene? I've noticed that moments like these usually stem from expectations not being known ahead of time. I call this a Cue Gap™ The Cue Gap usually shows up during sudden transitions. So here's one practice to try: Set the expectation before the transition time. Timers can be good, but try building transitions around a rhythm your child already knows. Play time Work time Alone time Dinner time Whenever possible, let daily activities follow a predictable sequence. Of course some days will be different, but try to make most days the same. The important thing is that everybody knows what to expect and when to expect it. One predictable transition. One predictable expectation. Think about a transition that causes repeated reminders in your home. Does your child know what's expected ahead of time? Or does the transition start when you announce it? If you've ever been frustrated with reminding your child over and over again...the root cause might be a Cue Gap™ But that's only 1 of 4 patterns I've seen, that keeps parents stuck in an endless cycle of reminder loops. So I created a tool to help you uncover these hidden patterns before they get worse as your child grows. It's called The Responsibility Readiness Check. It's a 9 question assessment that takes about 3 minutes.

Yesterday, I told you about a pattern I've noticed across many families. I call it The Reminder Loop. It's a cycle that usually looks something like this: You ask your child to do something, and eventually it gets done. But the task never truly transfers from your head to their habits. So the next morning, afternoon, or bedtime...you gotta remind them all over again. And after a while, you start wondering: "I know they know what to do, so why do I have to keep reminding them?" Here's what I've noticed... The Reminder Loop usually boils down to one of four patterns: 1-Sometimes kids don't have a clear picture of what "done" looks like. 2-Sometimes there's no system that tells them when to start. 3-Sometimes parents take over the task because it feels faster and easier 4-And sometimes, kids wait to see if parents really meant what they said...before taking you seriously the first time. These patterns can look similar on the surface, but each one needs a different response. So I created a tool to help parents spot these patterns before they get worse as your child grows up. The tool is called The Responsibility Readiness Check. It's a 9 question assessment that takes about 3 minutes. It'll give you immediate results, and it's free. Tap here to take 👇 The Responsibility Readiness Check https://skoo.ly/reminder-loop Your results will include one simple next step to help your kid be more responsible with less reminders from you.

I'm hosting a workshop to shine some light on child behavior patterns so you can be ready for their next stage. Will you join us? Here's the Zoom link: https://www.skool.com/the-proactive-parent-6836/calendar?eid=09591b2b09044128bc59b9c77def46c2

I've seen a pattern over the last 38 years. That pattern is this... Many people who struggle in life are often lacking a positive self-image Notice I said many...not all Many people who struggle in life today often grew up with parents who had a negative self-image also. Those parents couldn't give their kids something that they didn't have themselves. The kids lack confidence because the parents lack confidence The kids lack courage because the parents lack courage And the parents lacked courage because they had no one to encourage them So my question to you is... How do you see yourself as a parent? What example are you setting for you child to follow? --- The first step to improving self...is to be self-aware. The second step is to desire better for yourself/child. The third step is to be humble and accept the truth...that you don't know everything. The community you grew up in might not have had people who encouraged you...but now you're an adult with the power to choose your community. I'm glad you've chosen to be a part of this community...you're in the right place 😊

Growing up in the 90's we played outside in the Summer heat. -Opened the fire hydrant -Played freeze tag -Had water balloon fights Many kids today will never have those fun, physical experiences. The real world has always had dangers...but today it's on a different level. What's something you wish your kid could experience...but doubt that they ever will?