While growing up as a child I wasn’t given anything, I was deprived of everything, no school books, no new stuff, no tv , I never even knew about birthday celebrations. Even if I was given something it was probably the cheapest. Not because we couldn’t afford, I was just made to feel unworthy. But I went to the best schools in my town, where all the rich kids went. I saw how much children were loved. During visiting days, my sister will send my grandma money to buy things for me but she will use the money and bring bread & meat, something I could not keep for long. Then she will tell me that times were hard and she had to use the money to pay the workers at the farm, then she plead that I lie that she bought everything I needed, of course I will, but later I’ll cry my eyes out! When it was time for holiday every other kid was excited but those were my worst moments because I knew I would be sent to my sister’s house since she was the one sponsoring me. I had to go and work , work and work in order to show appreciation to her for sponsoring me, if I made any mistake I’ll be beaten and sent out , even if it was in the middle of the night. When I called my grandparents that I wanted to go back home they will insist that I kneel and apologize because she’s the one who is capable of putting me in a good position in life! I used to write apology letters to both her and her husband and wait for their approval! There were times when my sister will remind me that she’s all I’ve got. The beatings, the insults, the rejection. And with everything I was still sent to the best university in my town. With no clothes, no bed , no basic needs! I was told to focus and study because many will want what I have! But I promised myself that I’ll never sponsor anyone like this, I won’t make them go through all of what I went through! So while at the university I hustle so hard, I sell stuff to my classmates. When I started making some money I started giving back, I would send foodstuff to my grandparents, send birthday gifts to my sister, I always went an extra mile for my friends but never want anyone to bother about me. On my birthday I just want a quiet time to myself, often I’ll cry and thank God for keeping me alive! Sometimes I’ll just wish my sister would even send something for me cos it’s my birthday! My friends see my as a very generous person who is a people pleaser. Honestly how do I receive from others? Cos I usually turn down gifts, I just feel like they shouldn’t bother, but deep down I really want someone to bother. Also I noticed that each time someone helps me i feel indebted to them. I alwaysss want to return the favor!

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“NO” is a complete sentence. Always have that in mind, you don’t need to explain yourself!