I feel….. I am….. My issue….. All statements that we randomly say without thinking about the effect those works have on is. When we label ourselves we are concreting those emotions. Setting them in stone with no room for change. Language is everything. In our horsemanship, but also in every day life. Be careful what you wish for…..be careful what you say. Take notice of the following statements and notice the difference in them, how each of them feel, even though they are very similar statements. ‘ I am so tired of everything. Life is hard.’ ‘ I’m am feeling tired right now. Life can be hard sometimes.’ One is final, one is temporary. This allows us to feel like we can do something to improve things, rather than feel defeated. Hear yourself. It’s the first step in self care.