I think this is tricky when your kiddo also can't admit they are anxious. We find that keeping everything calm before competitions helps - getting their early - but not TOO early, having gum, and reminding her of positive things she's been working on to boost confidence seems to help. I think a post competition slogan that has helped a lot has been to JUST say, "I really enjoyed watching you play today". No comments on abilities (even if they were amazing), just joy in watching participation. I've noticed this has made small stacking strides for our oldest. Finding ways for her to connect with her teammates also helps her feel more confident.

When things are different they feel harder. Last season you knew what to expect from your coach and your teammates by the end of the season - now you have a less predictable practice because it’s possibly a new coach and new teammates. Even if you like your teammates - you don’t know how they’ll be at practice yet. Or how you will “measure up” to them. Flexibility is tough for their little brains!

All of it! But also - Helping kids build confidence even when they don’t make the top team. How to continue to build confidence and teach them to accept the news and keep playing.