Let’s tell the truth. Most of us don’t actually want love. Not at first. We want to be chosen. To finally hear someone say, “You’re it. You’re enough.” Somewhere along the way, our nervous system learned a dangerous equation: Chosen = Safe. Desired = Valuable. Wanted = Worthy. So we chase what feels like redemption. The unavailable one. The complicated one. The one we have to earn. Because if we can get them to choose us, maybe the old wound will finally close. But that’s not love. That’s performance. And performance always ends in exhaustion. Real love won’t demand your proof. It will ask for your presence. So I’m curious... Where have you noticed this performance show up in your relationships? Do you still feel the pull to be “chosen,” or have you started to choose differently? Drop your reflections below ... I’ll be reading every one.

Welcome to the Love Leaders community. This is your family on the way to become secure, calm, and naturally attractive in love and life. A Love Leader leaves fluff at the door. A Love Leader follows the proven practices. A Love Leader overcomes the obstacles standing in the way, no matter what. Be more concerned with your current trajectory than with your current results. If you're new here, here are the 3 steps to take - now: STEP #1. INTRODUCE YOURSELF Who you are. What your goals is. What is one thing that's weird about you. STEP #2. VISIT CLASSROOM My promise? To give you more stuff - for free than you get elsewhere - for money. Panic-to-Peace 6-day protocol is waiting for you. But, there might be more than that. Soon. Very soo STEP #3. GET READY FOR THE RIDE. This is just the beginning of a long journey we'll enjoy together. - Buckle up - Check out the Map (for Love Leaders who might live closeby) - and Calendar - for the upcoming events in the nearby future. It's an honor to have you and I'm looking forward to serving you with all that I've got. Blessings and much love to you! Matus, Love Leader

4 years ago, in September 2021, my marriage ended. After 12 years together, everything I thought was stable ... wasn’t. Some people call it an "avoidant discard". I just remember the silence. The sleepless nights. The confusion. It took me 6 months to realize what I was truly grieving: not just my wife, but the image of who I thought I’d be. Then another 12 months to rebuild myself... emotionally, mentally, spiritually... so that I could rebuild us on new, secure terms. That journey became the foundation of everything I teach today. And it showed me something powerful: You don’t need 18 months to heal. You don’t even need 6. When you follow the right process... There are 6 steps that can bring calm, clarity, and control in as little as 6 days to 6 weeks. I’ll be teaching all 6 steps in a FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS: 👉 Friday, October 24th at 11 AM EST How to Get Back in Control After a Breakup (Even If You’re Caught in the Anxious - Avoidant Loop) You’ll learn: - How to stop the 3am spiral fast - How to install your own “calm system” that actually sticks - How to break the anxious - avoidant loop by fixing your body first It’s for people who want stability in days, not months. Not theory. Not therapy. Just truth + tools that work. Reserve your free seat here: breakup.loveleaders.life I hope to see you Friday Matus