Can we achieve this after our parents have died? I had some unresolved stuff with my Mum, but after she got sick during Covid I felt I could no longer bring up the things I needed to talk about. And so she died without us being able to resolve these issues. Some years before this, I wrote a long letter to my Dad explaining my feelings, how his behaviours and things he said to me amd about me made me feel. Then I burned the letter in a final expression of letting go. I felt quite calm at his funeral because I had done this before he passed. But didn't do the same thing with my Mum. As a result, I felt very uneasy at my Mum's funeral.