Woooww Jade, thank you for sharing ♥️✨ It takes a lot of love and strength to handle this situation like you did. QUEEN 👑 “There is really nothing to defend when you are certain in your own character and response-ability.” OOEEHH I love the dash between response-ability. That opens up a whole new dimension for me. But this one is about judgement. I love this topic because we all do it. And it’s a whole journey to become aware of it. I learned: Your ability to judge is sometimes needed! But there is a difference between judging a situation by trusting your gut that something or someone is unsafe for you, or judging others and yourself for any form of expression. Compared to the environment I grew up in, I was never too quick to judge someone. (Or so I convinced myself…) It is been deeply engraved in me to defend others that are being judged behind their back. If someone looked different, and the person I was with made a judgy comment on it, I’d bite. And by that I mean I would get angry with them for making a joke or comment. I couldn’t understand why they’d say such a thing. But I am starting to realise it was never about the third person that was being judged. It was a display of character. One person judging someone they didn’t know because of their own insecurities, and me judging them for judging someone they didn’t even know. Although this came from my heart, getting angry with the judger was not the right way to approach the situation. They might have judged the person passing by, but I was actually judging a person I wanted to feel connected to. There was no pointing at the real issue: expression wasn’t safe. Judgement was a cool armour to wear. And I was wearing it too, though it looked different. Not as cool. (There are many layers here I hope you can still follow me) I try not to make people feel bad for judging anymore, though sometimes they do feel that way when I ask them why they do it. I ask myself why I do it too (instead of judging myself, which I got good at too…) And it is up to me to stay connected to my heart. Take of the armour that I wear, and maybe with that, show someone that I connect with that it’s safe for them to take of that armour too.