Mogulmommas, My friends and colleagues use a word in reference to me that, frankly, irritates me: "You're so busy!" I have to ask why. What do people see that is different from what they want to see? It's something people only say to women. A man who is getting things done is praised and respected. But a woman is silently criticized for doing too much. Then I realized that people confuse busy with ACTIVE. They confuse someone who is doing a lot to someone who is doing EVERYTHING she wants to do with her life. And another thing... people who complain that I'm busy don't know the years I wasted in a bad marriage, broke, despondent, homeless with four babies. The years (YEARS) I sat on the couch watching Lifetime movies because I didn't want to be inside my own life. The tubs of ice cream I ate to numb the pain, gaining weight, feeling awful and emotionally broken. And there's something else they don't know... They don't know that I am now actualizing the life I put on my vision board. I'M WORKING MY PLAN. See, there came a point when I decided to stop waiting for my life to look the way I wished it would. So, I got ACTIVE! The marriage failed (both of them!). I hadn't written a single book. I hadn't started the business. The children were almost grown, and I looked around and realized I spent twenty years taking care of everybody except the woman in the mirror. Maybe you're starting over at 40. Or 50. Or 60. Maybe you've got $83 in your checking account and a dream that requires $83,000. Maybe the credit cards are maxed out. Maybe you're sleeping on the seam of the mattress to be as far away from "him" as possible. I want you to have the audacity to still believe you can pull it off. Don't just get BUSY. Get ACTIVE. Because I need you to understand something: It doesn't matter if you are late. Who cares if you're behind because somebody else bought the house first. Don't worry that her business took off faster. Don't feel stuck because "she" got married, got promoted, lost the weight, wrote the book, traveled the world, retired early, or figured out how to make sourdough bread while somehow raising emotionally healthy children.