Asalam alaikum MM Ladies! I have some good news for you, it DOES work out. We don't know the how, when, and who, but I promise you it does. I know this because even the feeling/desire to even want something is placed into our hearts and minds through Allah swt. We just need to do our parts of showing up to the pitch and having faith. I realized, that even having the opportunity to join the Mindful Muslimah Marriage Lab is an indication that Allah swt wants this for me and is guiding the way. MM is literally hand-holding us through this super confusing process and my heart feels so full after every class session alhumdulillah! I meant to post this after the Sunday session. Here is what I do to tie my camel & stay grounded. 1) In a journal every night, end the workday with a two-line (minimum) gratitude list. Make note of everything that went right. Also, note the single most satisfying ask you wrapped and one skill you stretched (however slightly). This tiny ritual closes the feedback loop, reminding your brain that progress happened and progress is rocket fuel for anticipation. Momentum hack: Keep the list in a running document called "Proof." On Friday, skim the week's entries. You'll start the weekend feeling capable. 2) Make a list of all the things that seemed impossible but Allah swt made possible (add stories of the prophets). 3) Sit with yourself and determine the difficult conversations that you're NOT having. Difficult conversations are a huge part of marriage and most of us struggle with this. See if your local library/institution offers a Crucial Conversations course. 4) Answer the question, who are you if your title/job was removed? Who is (___insert your name __)? What makes you special and worth getting to know? 5) It's okay to cry. This is a messy process and it's not linear. Forgive the version of you in the past. She did the best she could with what she had & knew at the time. Now you know better, so you'll work towards becoming better. This time, you're NOT starting from scratch, you're starting from experience.🫶