Sharing My Perspective on Self-Care and Why It Feels So Hard to Justify
First, understand this - we all have masculine and feminine natures. Masculinity helps us move forward in life, and femininity helps with nurturing. This is also called Yang and Yin. Women are, by default, carriers of the nurturing aspect—receiving, resting, and caring (yin), and men are, by default, carriers of movement or forward action—achieving and acting (yang). But without yang energy, women cannot move forward. We all have the innate ability to achieve equally, just as men do. In the same way, men can also nurture and provide with love. Hurry and worry come when we lose our nurturing side and operate only from the masculine side of ourselves. In that process, women tend to ignore self-care as well. If you observe, even men do not give much importance to self-care. I have seen both men and women (especially in our parents’ and grandparents’ generations) set aside their own needs to provide for their loved ones. We can gently explain that self-care, irrespective of gender, is very important for the well-being of the entire family—to bring balance to all aspects of life, especially in today’s world. Only when we take care of ourselves can we truly take care of others. Meditation helps us bring this into balance. Because of this, women, especially, can now communicate and express their opinions more freely than in earlier generations. Rather than feeling like we are justifying ourselves, we can gently explain this perspective to others, especially those who are not meditators. We can guide them and share our thoughts with love. Even though we have gone through this stage, the difference now is that we are aware. When we operate from love and higher awareness, people around us also begin to change. We have learned this in our sessions as well. So, our thought process matters. Instead of staying in lower emotions and thinking, “Why should I justify everything I do?”, we can shift our perspective and see that by staying grounded, we help others understand. Holding that higher state consistently is the key.