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Apr 22 •
How to Stop Being Defensive - Workshop Recording
Last night the Brotherhood lads had a discussion on non-defensiveness, how it differs from assertiveness and why it can be more effective in various situations. We shared personal experiences, and looked at how this approach can work in different contexts, from personal relationships to professional settings. We explored: - Non-Defensiveness and Its Benefits - why it's better to NOT defend yourself - Understanding Defensiveness in Communication - how it looks and sounds when we get defensive - Defensive Emotions and Triggers - what feelings trigger us and what that tells us - Challenging Client Management Strategy - how non-defensive applied to managing the most difficult man I've ever met - Non-Defensiveness Discussion and Strategies - hot to play with this in real life conflicts Excellent conversation, and we'll probably do a follow-up to explore the technical how-to aspects in more detail. >> Click here for the recording and chat notes If you're not yet a VIP Brotherhood member, you can access the free 7 day trial to view the recording Cheers Dan
2 likes • Apr 25
@Rutger Diergaarde Yea, it's hard even after years of learning this stuff. I'm a bit stressed recently so that definitely doesn't help. It's amazing how much of a trap can be embedded in such a seemingly trivial statement ("since Gurie is telling you to"). If I go then Gurie will forever be a source of more attacks. If I don't I'm a whipped-dog. If I challenge her she can play innocent (plausibly deniability). If I lay a boundary I'm being controlling (and that boundary is impossible to describe accurately). So there was no chance of me finding a good response in the instant, and my inability to do so is the real problem as it's caused so much pointless rumination.
1 like • 27d
@Rutger Diergaarde PDA 😂, think that means something very different to most people. Guess mine would be PCA=pathological conflict avoidance. All that rumination was pointless anyway. Couple days ago she told me to go to the festival. And yesterday mentions that she has a workshop series that she's already got her tickets for that weekend. FFS, just imagine the resentment if I had missed my festival and then watched her go off dancing all weekend! Got my ticket last night. Only 2 left. And paid a good amount more than if I had brought the super-early-bird ticket rather than waiting ~6 months for her to decide if she wanted to come. Lesson is to just buy my ticket, but pretty sure next time PCA will make me tiptoe around her 'permission'/'decision' again.
Apr 27 •
Proposed changes to Brojo (important notice)
Hey guys Thanks for all your feedback on the previous post about how to improve the engagement in this group. I went live today to talk about these ideas and what changes will happen in this group. I'll wait for your responses before I make those changes happen, so please take a moment to watch the video below or read through the summary notes and let me know your thoughts. This is especially important for those of you wanting to access this group for free! Cheers Dan
3 likes • Apr 27
Re. guys doing well getting less involved - for me when things are good, I'm busier so have less time, but conversely, when things a bad, the motivation is gone and I just want to watch TV and go to bed. There's only a small gap where both the need and the motivation are there to come over to brojo. Re. paying - sounds perfectly reasonable. And it would probably be easier to post somewhat sensitive or vulnerable messages on a less 'public' forum. Re. group call - when I miss them it's usually timing, but occasionally, when things are a bit shit, I must admit I avoid the call just in case you pass around the microphone so to say. But maybe those are the times I really should be on the call. You don't seem to do that anymore anyway.
Apr 23 •
I want to see some more engagement in this group
Hey guys Firstly, my deepest appreciation to all of you for being part of the group, especially those who interact on the feed and bring some ideas and life into the discussions. I have analytics on Skool that show me many of you are "lurking" - I can see that people read posts and visit the group, occasionally comment (usually when I'm doing some sort of free giveaway), but otherwise don't really post or support others with comments. I want to know what I can do to improve that. I want this to be a place where you feel encouraged and safe to participate actively, help others and share your experience along the way. I've tried a few things already, like 30 day challenges and polls and giveaways, but most of you remain silent. I know one sure-fire way is to make this group paid-only (remove the free membership tier). This is a last resort for me, but I'm running out of ideas. If you want this group to remain free, comment below (or DM me privately if you're not ready to be seen publicly) and let me know what I can do to increase your active participation. Let's build this thing together and have everyone giving in to the group. Cheers Dan
0 likes • Apr 27
Same. Perfect example, this tab has been open in the browser for 3 days waiting for me to read all the comments. I think I need to develop some time management skills in order to be able to ensure a proper amount of time gets scheduled for Brojo, and many other things. Without planning, the default seems to be to "open it in a tab to read tomorrow".
Dec '25 •
Returning to self improvement
Hey all, hope to get into the entrepreneurial stuff via Skool as I find some parts of Brojo values align with mine. I have consumed their content during the Facebook days and looking forward to their Skool content
0 likes • Jan 4
I imagine many of us are here for out 'primary' problem, but we get tunnel vision and we forget there are courses covering quite a few topics. I also need to add the entrepreneurship material to my to-do list.
Dec '25 •
Who wants to test the new Virtual Dan coaching app?
I'm working on creating a Dan GPT and need some beta testers. Who's keen? First 10 to say Yes get the access
1 like • Dec '25
From the play I had with the other one, I think AI Dan could be extremely useful both for people who can't afford 1-on-1 sessions, and also for small issues we're reluctant to bother a real person with (big problem for us analysis paralysis guys). The only downside I see is that it may take away some topics that could be asked on the Brojo forum and benefit the group, but then maybe you can teach it to suggest coming here for some topics. Happy to beta test.
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@shane-day-3081
Hi. I'm from Auckland, NZ, have been at the edge of BroJo for many years, and I'm a classic nice guy, but recently, it's been causing me problems.
Active 9h ago
Joined Jul 13, 2024
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