I’m working on chapter 1 and curious if ppl have a phrase they resonate with more. I think much of society expects men to being mostly emotionless, besides anger, resulting in lack of emotional literacy. I might call this being a rock or her rock. Is a phrasing that feels more familiar?

- My husband needed to take a work call in the room adjacent to my office. My office door was open, so he closed my office door so that I wouldn't be disturbed/distracted. - He is going on a work trip. Before leaving, he thought of meals I could send with my son to daycare each day so I wouldn't need to think about it. - We use a special mix for our dog that requires pre-cooking/batch preparation. He identified that making more food while he was gone would be added work for me, so he checked our dog food supply. - He identified that we didn't have enough food for the whole trip in the fridge, so he got a spare container out of the freezer. He thought to thaw it out on our rack above the sink so the condensation didn't get in the fridge and create an extra mess to clean.

- I had an english muffin in the toaster and went to take out the trash. My husband noticed the toaster was still on, and recognized he didn't know how toasted I would like it. So, he stopped it when the bread was lightly toasted, so that if I wanted it more toasted I could put it back in when I got back, but it wouldn't get over-toasted. - I told my husband I wished our laundry closet had more storage. He researched and ordered a shelf that would fit perfectly. - Today, I saw my partner help to emotionally regulate my toddler and waited to teach lessons learned once my toddler was calm again. This is a technique my partner is not used to doing, and I think it's mental load because he was able to remember the new technique and put it into practice as well as the emotional labor of helping my son to regulate. - He reminded me today that I still needed to book a hotel for our vacation in November, indicating he's been carrying the mental load of ensuring it gets done.

- Researched flight options for our upcoming vacation - Remembered to grab a snack for my son before we left for daycare because he's always a snack gremlin at pickup - Noticed we were low on diapers at daycare - Remembered to grab spare diapers and put them into the stroller for tomorrow

- We had guests over for dinner this weekend. My partner realized we didn’t have a dessert planned. - He thought of a recipe I make that was quick and easy. - He used his mental inventory of what was in our panty to identify the ingredients we needed to buy at the store - He thought to set out comfortable blankets throughout the apartment because our friends have a 6 month old, and she’d need safe places to be set down and play.