You guys wallahi @Mindful Muslimah nailed it!!!!!! If you didnt see her reel 10 hours ago. Please do! I was almost convinced that that was just my preference but coming from the sister makes it so real. YES,YES, YES AND YES. Take it to the perspective of how he loves Allah in private when no one sees him! How does he mention you when you are not present? Does he even mention you at all? Does he remember and act in front of other women as a married man who is loved and respected at home. Does he take off his engagement ring when you’re not with him? Does he boast about you? Does he sometimes refer to you in your absence as the better spouse to others? Does he make positive dua for you in your absence and I could go on and on! https://www.instagram.com/stories/mindfulmuslimah/3993865907691704914?utm_source=ig_story_item_share&stkn=MWxyZTB6dGZrbm94dw==

"Hey sisters, I just wanted to use this safe space to vent a bit. As an introvert, I often find myself feeling really anxious and scared whenever I have to talk to men. Honestly, I feel the most at peace when I'm just on my own, enjoying the quiet company of my pets. Do any of you other introverted sisters experience this too, or feel the same way?"

She just found out one of her friends is going through a hard time in her marriage.. money problems. Not cheating, not abuse, just... economy pressure. And it's shaken her. She looked at me and said "I don't think I'm ready to get married. What if the same thing happens to me?" And honestly? I get it. Look around.. economy is bad, politics is a mess, even the climate feels unstable. It's easy to look at all of that and think "how can I bring a marriage into this?" In the moment I told her "you can't think like that, just put your trust in Allah, everything will be fine." And that's true. But driving home I kept thinking... that's not the full answer, is it? Because tawakkul was never "have faith instead of preparing." It was always "tie your camel, THEN trust Allah." 🐪 If you were me... what would you say to her?

I am a divorcee with three young children aged 5 (boy), 8 (girl) and 10 (girl) years old. It has been 6 years since the divorce (He left after finding our about our third pregnancy and got married to someone else). I now want to get married as I can now make some time for a comitment. I am 36yrs old. I have managed to settle into my job as a pharmacist, done some training, worked on self reflection, children are settled in primary school and have a good understanding of my parenting. I am struggling to decide whether relocation would be a good option for me. One side tells me better to have it done whilst children are in primary school so they start secondary school with some familiar people from their new primary school. Also They may accept my marriage whilst young as compared to later. Also sharing a good example of marriage to children whislt they are young. I need my son to have a good male figure. The other side tells me that I should wait with my marriage perhaps by another couple of years so: 1. to allow my children to grow so they can help if I have another child from my new marriage rather me dealing with my own young ones whilst having another baby (and young step children). I am a hands on parent but any additional work when trying to bond with a new partner might put a strain. Dealing with young children on its own is a layer of emotional strain and full time commitment, and if our children clash with each other then that could impact the marriage. I feel I am imagining being left again to deal with children on my own (yes .. fear based thought...) 2. reduce the risk of being housebound once again If I have more children (and I really do want more children). Yes another fesr based thought.. ... but these are real and practical implications that can put strain on any relationship. Please share your views..

Assalamu alaikum, sisters 🤍 We've covered a lot together in this community, vetting, red flags, healing, communication, reflection, and so much more. I wanted to pause and check in with all of you. Where are you right now in your journey? What have you learned, applied, or shifted in how you think about marriage since joining? Whether it's a small mindset shift, a conversation you handled differently, or even just more clarity on what you're looking for, we'd love to hear it. 👇 Share your progress below, big or small. Every step counts, and your reflection might be exactly what another sister needs to hear today.