I am a divorcee with three young children aged 5 (boy), 8 (girl) and 10 (girl) years old. It has been 6 years since the divorce (He left after finding our about our third pregnancy and got married to someone else). I now want to get married as I can now make some time for a comitment. I am 36yrs old. I have managed to settle into my job as a pharmacist, done some training, worked on self reflection, children are settled in primary school and have a good understanding of my parenting. I am struggling to decide whether relocation would be a good option for me. One side tells me better to have it done whilst children are in primary school so they start secondary school with some familiar people from their new primary school. Also They may accept my marriage whilst young as compared to later. Also sharing a good example of marriage to children whislt they are young. I need my son to have a good male figure. The other side tells me that I should wait with my marriage perhaps by another couple of years so: 1. to allow my children to grow so they can help if I have another child from my new marriage rather me dealing with my own young ones whilst having another baby (and young step children). I am a hands on parent but any additional work when trying to bond with a new partner might put a strain. Dealing with young children on its own is a layer of emotional strain and full time commitment, and if our children clash with each other then that could impact the marriage. I feel I am imagining being left again to deal with children on my own (yes .. fear based thought...) 2. reduce the risk of being housebound once again If I have more children (and I really do want more children). Yes another fesr based thought.. ... but these are real and practical implications that can put strain on any relationship. Please share your views..

Does anyone else feel like they've kind of outgrown their friend group when it comes to this topic? 😅 At my age.. honestly, the hardest part of this whole marriage search journey hasn't even been the search itself. It's been how alone I feel in it. Most of my friends got married in their early-mid 20s. They're in a completely different season now.. talking about their kids, their in-laws. And I love them, I really do, but when I try to bring up something I'm going through, like a feeling that fell through or how exhausting it is to keep vetting people and getting disappointed, I just get the "it'll happen when Allah wills it" response and the conversation moves on. It's not that they're wrong. It WILL happen when Allah wills it. But sometimes I just need someone to sit with me in the "this is hard right now" instead of rushing to the "it'll be fine" part. And then there's the other side of it.. the sisters my age who also aren't married yet. Half the time it feels like we're either comparing our situations or subtly competing, instead of actually supporting each other. Or they're so deep in their own frustration that it just becomes a venting match instead of an actual conversation. I didn't expect that the loneliest part of trying to get married would be not having anyone who really gets it. Is it just me, or does anyone else feel this too? How have you dealt with it?

We’re so glad you’re here. This community is for sisters who are serious about accelerating their marriage search, gaining clarity, and moving toward marriage this year, insha’Allah. You’re surrounded by like-minded women walking a similar path. ❤️ To get started, please introduce yourself and share: - Your name and the country you’re joining us from (we’re an international community!) - What do you hope to gain from the Muslim Marriage Accelerator - One fun or interesting fact about you We can’t wait to get to know you and support you on this journey, bi’ithnillah.