My issue is that clearly Bob's tool can work based on all the lives it's changed, but the process also sounds like you get so involved with the emotions of your goal, you'll do anything for it to succeed. I'm struggling to find a goal where I'm willing to do "anything" for it to succeed. I worry how "willing to do anything" would affect my family, or certain lines I'm not sure I actually want to cross. Am I just overthinking it?

Set a goal to be a better friend to someone. see yourself as a better friend. then say happiness gratitude over and over. as you keep doing that you will feel a chnage in who you are becoming. keep saying those words over and over. it is hard work. but in a short time you will have created a version of your self as a better friend. Now you know that tool works and you can use it on anouther slightly bigger goa The key is to start using the tool.