Hello beautiful ones. I’m seeking creative ideas from the community on accessible ways to engage in a favorite position as you get older: doggie style when the weight of one’s partner is larger, not speaking in terms of the size of the tool, but the stature (in this case, heavier physical weight wise) and they tend to place their (body) weight on the receiver when in action. Any suggestions? Resources? Tool?

That's the excuse so many people make when it comes to ritualizing self care. How hard is it to carve out time in your day for yourself? What are you fearful of losing in that one hour that you give just to your own well being? Who walks away? Are you supposed to have any of it if it leaves you so easily? We spend every moment working for someone else's dream, well being, safety and thoughts, what is it all for if you can't get 1/24th of the day to yourself? The real answer might be one you don't want. You have time for meditation. You have time for a walk. You have time for reading. You have time to sit in silence. You have time to heal yourself. The question is, do you believe that you deserve it?

“Friends with benefits” is still a relationship. Friendships are relationships. What I keep seeing, though, are people calling someone a friend with no real desire (or capacity) to befriend — just not brave enough to say: I want to enjoy sex with another human. The relationship anarchist in me wants to remind you: you don’t owe anyone a title. But when we attach false ones, the body pays the price — trust, safety, and love get confused. What would change if we stopped calling things what they aren’t? If we dropped the pretense and told the truth of what we actually want? I’m not here to shame your pleasure — I’m here to free it. Let’s talk about it: what does honesty in intimacy mean to you? Where in your life are you using the word “friend” to make a sexual connection feel safer, instead of saying what it really is? What would feel different in your body if every person you touched knew the truth of your desire and you knew the truth of theirs?

One of my absolute favorite practices to lead is one that I first learned from Betty Martin in her Like a Pro Wheel of Consent™️ training. It’s deceptively simple, but it opens up some of the most profound conversations about desire, boundaries, and the nervous system that happen in our spaces together. It starts with a single question that almost always changes the room: **“Why don’t you ask for what you want?”** At first, there’s usually a pause. People look down, look away, or laugh a little. It’s like the body is asking, “Is it really safe to tell the truth here?” And then, slowly, the answers begin to arrive. Once the first few people share, the floodgates open. What comes through is raw, embodied, and deeply intelligent. You can hear whole life stories inside a single sentence. You can feel family systems, cultural conditioning, trauma responses, and survival strategies all speaking through the ways people answer. Some examples of what tends to come up: - “I don’t want to be a burden.” - “I’m afraid I’ll be rejected.” - “No one ever asked me what I wanted growing up, so I don’t really know.” - “If I say it out loud and don’t get it, it will hurt too much.” And then there’s the one that landed hard in my own heart: “I don’t believe what I ask for is what I’ll get.” Whew. That one. The ache in that sentence is so familiar. The way it teaches the body to stay quiet, to not bother, to manage everything internally instead of risking disappointment on the outside. That belief has kept me silent on more days than I’d like to admit. It’s definitely a top 3 answer for me. Lately, this question has been echoing through my days: **Why don’t you ask for what you want?** If you feel resourced enough, spend some time with it this week. You might: - Notice what happens in your body when you read that question. Tightening? Numbness? Heat? Collapse? - Journal a list of your uncensored answers, without trying to fix or uplift them. - Track where you learned those answers. Whose voice do they sound like? What memories do they belong to?

If you're here, you're ready for sex education that doesn't shy away from the explicit, the erotic, or the embodied truth of what pleasure actually looks like. This is not your high school health class. This is not sanitized, clinical, or polite. This is a space where we talk about sex—real sex. We discuss anatomy with accuracy and desire with honesty. We explore technique, sensation, orgasm, kink, communication, and everything in between. We use explicit language because pleasure deserves to be named clearly, without euphemism or shame. What That Means: This community is NSFW (Not Safe For Work). Content here will include: - Explicit discussions of sexual practices, techniques, and experiences - Anatomically correct language and imagery (educational, not pornographic) - Conversations about desire, arousal, orgasm, and erotic exploration - Questions and sharing that honor the full spectrum of human sexuality This is an adult learning space. You must be 18+ to participate. What We're Building Here: A community where pleasure is centered, consent is sacred, and sex education is rooted in liberation—not fear, not shame, not scarcity. Whether you're here to deepen your own erotic practice, learn skills to share with partners, or explore the somatic and psychological dimensions of sexuality, you're in the right place. We talk about the mechanics. We talk about the emotions. We talk about power, vulnerability, communication, and the revolutionary act of choosing pleasure in a world that tells us our bodies are wrong. Community Agreements: - Consent is everything. We ask before we share explicit content in comments or DMs. We respect boundaries. We honor each other's autonomy. - No unsolicited sexual advances. This is an educational space, not a dating or hookup platform. - Confidentiality matters. What's shared here stays here. Respect people's privacy and stories. - Curiosity over judgment. We're all here to learn. Ask questions. Share experiences. Hold space for perspectives different from your own. - Explicit ≠ Exploitative. We center pleasure and education, not objectification or harm.