Due to unforeseen circumstances, the Ask a Sex Doula workshop tonight has been cancelled. A million apologies for those who planned for the evening. Stay tuned for an updated schedule of summer events. In pleasure and power, Amina

“"Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love.” -Rumi If you don’t know what you love, how ever will you find pleasure? How much time do you spend doing what you love? What of love have you left behind to survive? To belong? To exist? Pleasure is a fire that needs fuel. What feeds yours??

You can’t pay attention busy. You can’t pay attention when your mind is scanning for what’s next. Paying attention is about opening a door to presence. In sex, presence identifies safety. When attention is steady and undivided, the nervous system shifts towards a response allows the erotic to thrive. Presence and performance are opposites. Performance looks outward, managing an image. Presence turns inward, listening, receiving, allowing sensation to move without commentary. To explore the erotic, you must clear your calendar. must create spaciousness to be with your body. What is on your calendar that doesn’t need to be, yet is in the way of your paying attention, and therefore in the way of paying attention.

We have a live webinar this Thursday and I am taking your questions in advance. Be sure to register for the webinar on the calendar. It will be recorded and the replay will be available for 14 days.

And a body that can tell the truth can stop performing. So many of us were trained to survive by going numb: to intellectualize, to overfunction, to be “strong,” to be palatable, to be good. Numbness is a strategy. What if you didn’t need that strategy ALL the time. Where in your body do you notice yourself going numb—or holding your breath—in daily life? When you reclaim the capacity to feel, you reclaim the capacity to choose. Experiencing ourselves at choice is a big chunk of the work here in the Pleasure Project. Erotic pleasure is purposeful, potent medicine. It sits at the crossroads of power, shame, belonging, and desire. It shows us where we clamp down, where we rush, where we barter our yes for approval. It also shows us that the body doesn’t just remember trauma, it remembers agency. It remembers what it feels like to be met, to be wanted without being used, to be in contact without being consumed. “Feeling” is the body’s way of speaking truth in a language older than logic. Boundaries. Consent. Timing. Truth. The Pleasure Project teaches new possibilities: - Safety without collapse - Aliveness without danger - Intimacy without self abandonment I am curious: what messages about pleasure have shaped your body’s capacity to receive? What might “receiving without apology” look like in your current season of life?