Transformation begins with awareness. I’d love to know where you currently are in your journey. Which stage are you working through right now? • Stage 1: Cause• Stage 2: Emotional Effect• Stage 3: Interpretation• Stage 4: Desire• Stage 5: Action• Stage 6: Justification• Stage 7: Issues & Patterns• Stage 8: Origins• Stage 9: Cure Drop your stage below and share one insight, breakthrough, challenge, or question you’re currently working through. Remember: The goal isn’t to understand why you cheated. The goal is to discover the root causes and permanently change the patterns that made infidelity possible. Let’s discuss.

How do others handle when the betrayed partner responds to your explanation of root cause with anger, and when attempting to explain that root cause that is rooted in childhood trauma which led to inappropriate coping methods and actions, as an excuse. They feel that the decision is simple that I just chose to cheat on them and that it’s as simple as that just making a choice not to do something. I have attempted to explain that I’m not using my childhood trauma and incorrect coping methods as an excuse, but as an explanation which led to me justifying and escaping. And that knowing this helps me to be able to get to the root of the issue not just. “ not doing it” and actually being able to change.

As more members continue joining The Nine Stages Method™ community, I just want to remind everyone: If you have questions… drop them in the feed. Whether it’s about: • root causes • cheating patterns • rebuilding trust • triggers • communication • emotional regulation • or recovery in general… Post it. I check the community weekly and answer questions to help guide you through the process. You’re not here to just stop the behavior. You’re here to change the pattern at the source.