Never read it. But will put it in my list.

Something that helped me so much is an emotion lasts for around 90 seconds. Beyond that it’s us that keeps the story going. I have spoke about ‘the princess pause’ i taught my daughter in the past (on my group u may remember). I have heard it called ‘the pause’ ‘taking a beat’, whatever u call it. It’s giving space between trigger and reaction to allow the first swell of emotion to build and subside. Then reacting. It’s one of the things I teach a lot of my clients. Whether it’s a trauma client, a client with ADHD or a couple who get into verbal disagreements easily. Teaching them to sit for a minute while the emotion reaches crescendo without responding is one of the most powerful tools a person can have. The ability to sit in the uncomfortable emotions and sensations then reacting as u begin to calm.

Acknowledge it. Give it space to be there. Ask ‘what’s the story I am telling myself’? Movement can help move it through u.

I am safe. On repeat.

@Andrew Nelson my body never felt a safe place in the past. Neither my outside world. But I have worked hard to make sure it is.

I think as parents we need to allow our children to struggle in order to help them fail and build resilience. Fail, wait, grow and feel the uncomfortableness it creates.