I feel….. I am….. My issue….. All statements that we randomly say without thinking about the effect those works have on is. When we label ourselves we are concreting those emotions. Setting them in stone with no room for change. Language is everything. In our horsemanship, but also in every day life. Be careful what you wish for…..be careful what you say. Take notice of the following statements and notice the difference in them, how each of them feel, even though they are very similar statements. ‘ I am so tired of everything. Life is hard.’ ‘ I’m am feeling tired right now. Life can be hard sometimes.’ One is final, one is temporary. This allows us to feel like we can do something to improve things, rather than feel defeated. Hear yourself. It’s the first step in self care.

Consider a scenario where every emotion is available to you. Which one would you prefer, recognizing that introspection is vital for initiating change? Some people unknowingly seek negative emotions, not due to fault or blame, but as a consequence of their beliefs. Picture creating each day to reflect your desired emotional state, every single day. Although challenging, this is an attainable objective.

When we regard emotions as a form of energy, it becomes clear how easily a single negative feeling can undermine our daily experiences. While many people assume they are powerless to control their emotional responses or reactions to unfavorable situations, the reality is that negative energy can be managed with the same simplicity as flipping a light switch. I say this process as uncomplicated, yet not necessarily easy. The process itself is straightforward, but putting it into practice can be difficult. The first step is to look at emotions as energy, and that is the start of being able to separate yourself from your reaction.