Today I want to talk about something important, especially to the men here. Itβs a huge community, MashaAllah, and this needs to be said. Today I was serving chai to my Papa and Chacho. When my Chacho finished his tea, he came to the kitchen, handed me the cup, put his hand on my head, and said, βThank you beta. Allah Taβala naseeb achay karein.β He used to say the same thing in Ramzan. When we spent the last few fasts together, he would make dua before iftar. The one I remember most clearly was: βAllah Taβala hamari betiyon ke naseeb achay karein.β As Iβve grown up, Iβve noticed that this is the only dua most girls ever get: naseeb, naseeb, bas naseeb. Now that Iβm older, I think I understand why. Iβve seen women living happily in their homes, and Iβve also seen women treated terribly at their in-laws. So where does the difference come from? If youβre a man reading this, I want you to know: you canβt imagine the fear parents carry for their daughtersβ naseeb, and the fear girls carry for their own. I donβt understand why it feels so difficult to just live happily together, to fulfill each otherβs responsibilities and wishes, to respect one another, to trust one another. I think most of the problem comes from the fact that we only see our own point of view. We donβt try to step into someone elseβs shoes and ask: Why is this important to them? Why do they feel this way? So many problems could be solved if we simply tried to understand things from the other personβs side. Allah Taβala made men qawwam, protectors and maintainers but He never gave them the right to disrespect the women in their homes. No right to mistreat them, belittle them, or deny their humanity. I donβt know who becomes toxic in this process, but please think about it this way: someone raises a child, a daughter, with so much care. Sheβs delicate, sensitive. For 25 years they nurture her, and then they hand her over to you, trusting you with her life. Honor that trust. She is human too. She left her home, her parents, her comfort, her life, her hobbies, just to become part of your family. Handle her with love and respect. At the very least, give her the basic respect that every relationship deserves whether love grows later or not.