With the holidays and a new year coming fast I know these next couple of weeks can feel like a massive weight on our shoulders. Like most men you're trying to juggle it all right now: the gifts, finances, expectations, travel or hosting all while you're trying to make sure your stress doesn't impact other people's joy. It's a lot. So let me check in with you... What is one thing you'd feel proud to accomplish this week? The one thing that if you get this done it'll create some relief in your life. The one thing that I'm focusing on is building out the "How to End Self-Sabotage" workshop. The name will be improved on haha But this workshop is the one thing that will impact all of my other goals moving into the new year.

How many of you feel like you need to prove something just to feel "enough"? - How strong you are. - How successful you are. - How smart you are. For many men the list feels miles long. I used to hate the idea of "proving yourself." It felt like chasing approval from others—my father, my coaches, my friends—always trying to measure up to their judgments. But over time, I’ve reframed this idea. Now, I love the relationship I have with proving something to myself. It’s about showing myself that I can actually do it—whatever “it” might be. Today, I’m introducing something new: The Monday Prompt. Each week, I’ll share a sentence for you to finish in the comments. These prompts are designed to help you reflect, open up, and find the courage to be seen by other men who are on the same journey. This week’s Monday Prompt: I want to prove to myself that I can… Finish the sentence in the comments below. Let’s hear it.

I've created an assessment based on the research i've been doing around Dr. Gad Saad's theory of Mating Desirability Score. The research is fascinating and spot on from everything i've ever learned and experienced in my own life. So I wanted to create an assessment that would be valuable for men to identify their score and how to improve it. This is perfect for any man whether you're in a relationship or not. Would love your feedback so we can make it as effective as possible. Take the assessment here: What's Your Good Man Relationship Score?

Insecurity → Coping (sabotage behavior) → Shame → Coping (sabotage behavior) Self-sabotage doesn’t happen at random. It shows up when we’re growing—or being called to grow—beyond our current abilities. Maybe the pressure comes from an outside source, like a new job, a relationship, or the life-altering responsibility of becoming a father. Or maybe the pressure is internal—driven by your own goals, dreams, and the vision of a bigger life. Either way, growth is uncomfortable. When you’re challenged to become more capable, you’re also met with intense resistance. This resistance has a name: Cognitive Dissonance. Formal definition: Cognitive Dissonance is the discomfort typically experienced as psychological stress, which can manifest as feelings of guilt, anxiety, shame, or regret. Put simply, your brain thrives on predictable outcomes, better known as habits, and habits protect you in two ways: 1. They conserve energy. Learning something new takes a massive amount of mental and physical energy. Historically, this energy was reserved for survival—hunting, building shelter, and fighting off predators. 2. They create predictability. Predictability makes survival more likely. When outcomes are familiar, your brain feels safer. Stepping into unknown territory (even just psychologically) sets off your internal alarms because it could be filled with threats. So, What Does This Have to Do with Self-Sabotage? The problem is that modern life has evolved faster than our biology. We don’t need to fight off tigers or hunt for every meal anymore. But our biological responses haven’t caught up in our modern world, where we’re being hijacked by trivial stressors like the latest marketing tactics to get you to buy shit you don’t actually need or comparing our vacations to strangers on social media. As a result, many of us have become masters of coping instead of being. That energy in your body—the same energy designed to help you build, hunt, and thrive—is lying dormant, trapped like a bull in a cage.

I'm currently writing the about page for this community and I'd love your thoughts. Here's the draft I'm working on: A Man Without Guidance Carries Wounds He Can't See. If you grew up without a strong, healthy male role model—or are still searching for what it means to be that man—you’re not alone. The truth is, until you heal the wounds left by the men who failed to teach you, you'll unknowingly pass that pain forward: in your relationships, your work, and even to your own children. The Good Man Project isn’t about hyper-masculinity or performative toughness. It’s about learning the real skills—Responsibility, Accountability, Dependability, and Credibility—that create a man others can trust, respect, and love. This is your invitation to a free community of men who are done pretending. Done avoiding the hard truths. Done feeling stuck. Inside, you’ll find the tools, conversations, and support to become the kind of man you can be proud of.