Assalamu alaikum wa rahmetullah wa barakatu by beloved sisters 💖. I'm so happy that you clicked on my post, and I wish you'll share your insights on what I am about to say. I really need some opinions, thoughts, advices and so on. So just as I am opening up and sharing with you a part of my journey would i really appriciate if you just could share your thoughts on it. Wa Jazakallahu khayrokom, Ameen 🤲🥰 Okay, so first do I want to say, that one can not get married without a Wali. So that part is pretty obligatory, just putting it out there so noone gets confused by my title. My to main obstcals that is preventing me of getting married is: First and foremost, I don't have a wali (right now, but in sha Allah ta'ala, Allah will provide me with one). The second thing is, that right now am I not actively searching for my future husband. But I am somewhat ready - the part that is missing for me (that I know of besides the wali-part) is that I have totally no idea how to talk to men, I can't read them, I don't understand them (the psycologicy of men), and yet how to understand if he is a match for me, are we compatible etc., and most of the time am i so uncomferteble in the precense of a man (that is not my mahram) that I really don't concentrate on the important things. And in sha allah khair. So yes, I am here to, hopefully, fix that part in me, if not fix it, then finding sulotions, ways or/and tools to deal with it, with success in sha Allah. Because to be completely honest doesn't I even want to talk to any man by my own, Alhamdullilah (so maybe I don't want to "fix it", but get the sulotions and tools to get by either way). 🌸 So this is my plan to deal with the abcense of a wali: Alhamdullilah Ramadan is coming, it's just around the corner, and a part of my ramadan will i use to meet sisters in the mousqe in sha Allah, for the sake of Allah. Not to sneak a peak at the men there or to gets noticed by any - but to expand my circle of sisters that i know for the sake of Allah.