Earlier, trust was pre-qualified. Now attention is open access and you pay the screening cost. The real skill today isn’t networking—it’s ruthless curation of who gets your time. Do you know who you are looking for? What are your must-haves, nice-to-haves and your deal breakers? Curious what people think of this evolution and what that means for your dating strategy.

Dating can feel like a slog. You put yourself out there… You have the same conversations… You wonder if it’s even worth the effort. And at some point, many people quietly opt out. Not because they don’t want connection — but because the process feels draining. That’s exactly why I created this event: The Spring Mix and Mingle is a structured, small-group experience where you get to meet multiple people over Zoom. Check out details on the meetup.com page. If you are already a member of one of my groups, you can find out more on one of these event pages: - Real Talk for Singles 50+ - Spring Mix and Mingle - Reboot Your Love Life for 50+ - Spring Mix and Mingle TO PARTICIPATE: 👉 Complete the application form and pay the registration fee via meetup.com. Zoom details will be sent 24 hours before the event. Just as important—You’re in a target-rich environment: - People in your age range - People who chose to be there - People who are actually open to meeting someone Whether that leads to friendship, meaningful connection, or something more—you are bound to have fun. - 2–4 people per room. - Guided prompts. - Rotations. - Simple. Human. Real. No guarantees of chemistry. But a much better environment for connection. PS. We already have about 40 people registered and a great group forming. To create a balanced experience, we’d especially love to welcome a few more men 50+ to join us. Feel free to invite friends! —Dessi

And I’ve been thinking a lot about new chapters. There is something about this stage of life that calls in a different kind of striving. We have lived. Loved. Lost. Rebuilt, often more than once. And at some point, you realize that every new beginning is not really new at all. It comes from every moment you have already lived through. Years of learning, failure, problem solving, picking yourself back up, and trusting that whatever comes next can be more beautiful than the chapter before. These past 2+ years have been exactly that for me. A step into a new realm and a new identity. Into building a business. (Entrepreneur) Into trusting myself more deeply. (More capacity) Into letting go of what I thought life was supposed to look like. (New vision) Into healing my body from 2 major surgeries (Accepting aging and menopause) And into love and a deepening relationship with my partner. With someone who, on paper, does not fit the expected mold. A man who has never been married. Never had children of his own. Does not come from the corporate world And if I am being honest, there was a moment where I paused. Because it is different. Because it is not the familiar story. Because it would have been easier to stay within the paradigm I understood. But growth does not come from staying in what is familiar. Love does not follow a formula. So I chose to move forward. Not because I know exactly where it will lead, but because I trust myself to navigate whatever unfolds. If there is one thing I know for sure at this point in my life, it is this: * You do not create a new chapter by holding onto the old one. * You do not build something meaningful without some level of risk. * And you do not experience real connection by staying guarded and waiting until everything feels certain. As I step into another year, I am choosing to stay open to life and to follow my aliveness. To stay curious. To keep taking risks and trust that I can handle the hard stuff. And to believe that there is still so much life and love available to us, if we are willing to step toward it.

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