Hey everyone It's been a hell of a weekend. Brojo.org was temporarily down, now resolved , which also means my [email protected] email address can receive emails again. I'm hoping to have this resolved soon.(EDIT) I've also been banned permanently from Facebook. Not really sure why but I am sure there's nothing I can do about it. I can't even set up a new profile (face recognition prevents it). So my Groups and Pages on there are probably going to have to die slowly because I didn't think to set up a back-up admin, and Messenger obviously doesn't work for me anymore. If you need to contact me, please use WhatsApp +420605446442 I'll keep you all posted on developments thanks! Dan

So I’ve just been diagnosed with burnout and a mild cognitive impairment plus an adhd sensory processing disorder. I feel like my life has been turned totally upside down. Doing my brojo journey was giving me a direction and now I feel like I’ve been thrown in to a void of strange loneliness.

So I live with my partner and her nearly 19 year old daughter. Her daughter works full time like we all do but she thinks at the end of her day or her day off she should have to do anything as she’s been at work. We’ve explained that as adults life doesn’t stop at the end of work shift. However she does literally nothing. She leaves the door to the cold kitchen open every time she goes in there letting all the cold air in to the lounge, she has a 3 hour bath and leaves both lights on in her bedroom, leaves her pots on the side even thought we have a dishwasher, she spill tea or coffee on the side and just leaves it. She would leave her clothes on line until the disintegrate if she could. I know this generation is lazy as fck but it’s little driving my crazy. I’ve tried to advise her, coach her, told her and also been very blunt but absolutely nothing works, yet she will come home from work and literally slag the customers off, say how incompetent her coworkers are and slate her friends for being lazy flakes. It’s tricky because if she was mine even at this age I’d be giving her an ultimatum these young people are a disgrace.

So then, resistance, I’m really experiencing this - why? Well after so long of running round like a fucking idiot after absolutely everyone, friends, family and colleagues and utterly burning myself out and suffering really bad mental health. I’ve stopped, I’ve not downed tools but I’ve just started to care and focus on me. Friends and family do not like it, I declined offers to do stuff for people and just said I already have plans, which I do - the plans are to do what I want. My partner thinks I’m potentially being lazy as I’m doing all the stuff I used to do but not a often - there is food in the fridge, clean clothes, the place is hoovered and mopped etc all the chores done more between us than usual. But I just said it all doesn’t need to be done as often and if we compare it most likely 90% of places ours would be a palace. I’ve just said I’m not doing it any more. I’ve started the gym, I go on walks and do ad-lib iPhone photography plus other stuff just for me and yet there is resistance but I’m not bothered I feel more settled within myself than ever. I’m happy to shrink my life circle to give myself more quality time. If that can’t be supported and understood just shows the selfishness it people.