Hi everyone,I came across this review that critiques how Splitsville and similar media represent polyamory as something glamorous and effortless — while ignoring the emotional and practical challenges that most people face. This raises some important questions: 1. Have you ever felt pressure from “perfect” representations of ENM in media? 2. What hidden privileges (time, money, support networks) do you think make polyamory easier? 3. How can we build a version of polyamory that feels real and sustainable in our own lives? 💬 Share your experiences — let’s unpack the gap between media fantasy and everyday reality. 🔑 3 Practical Lessons 1️⃣ Representation ≠ RealityMedia polyam often skips over jealousy, scheduling conflicts, or renegotiations — but those are real and normal. 2️⃣ Privilege MattersHaving financial stability, flexible time, and supportive friends/family changes how easy ENM feels. 3️⃣ Create Your Own FrameworkDon’t chase a media ideal. Build agreements, pace, and structures that fit your real life and real energy.

ey everyone — I found this interesting article comparing why people cheat and why some couples choose open relationships. 🔗 Here's the full read: Why People Cheat vs Open Relationship (Cosmopolitan) → link to article A few contrasts worth discussing: - Cheating often happens when a person feels emotionally unfulfilled but doesn’t express it. - Ethical non-monogamy (when done well) tries to bring those desires into the open, rather than acting behind someone’s back. - The success of an open relationship depends heavily on communication, boundary setting, and emotional safety — it’s not a failsafe. Questions to discuss: 1. In your experience or observation, which is harder: preventing betrayal or maintaining boundaries? 2. Can a relationship heal or strengthen by opening, or does it often exacerbate underlying issues? 3. What early signs tell you that someone might need a different relationship structure rather than staying monogamous out of habit? Share your thoughts and experiences — let’s use this article as a springboard for deeper understanding 🧠

Recently, influencer Lulu Trixabelle (ex-partner of MAFS UK contestant Bailey) suggested in cryptic Instagram posts that their past relationship was an open relationship gone wrong. You can read the full article here: link Her posts hinted at broken trust and deep emotional wounds — raising questions about how open relationships succeed or fail depending on communication and agreements. 🔑 3 Lessons from This Case 1️⃣ Rules only work if they’re respected.It seems Bailey and Lulu had agreements in place, but if one partner ignores them, “open” becomes “chaotic.” Boundaries must be clear and enforced. 2️⃣ Transparency is non-negotiable.Open relationships collapse quickly when secrecy creeps in. If something happens outside the agreements, honesty is the only path to repair. 3️⃣ Emotional care matters as much as freedom.Lulu’s posts show pain, not just anger. Freedom without responsibility often leads to heartbreak. Nurturing each other’s security should always come first. 💬 Discussion Prompt What do you think was the biggest red flag in their setup? - Lack of clear boundaries? - Ignoring emotional impact? - Or something else? Share your thoughts below — let’s turn this messy situation into a chance to learn how to build healthier open relationships. ❤️

Everyone has fears when exploring open relationships — and naming them is the first step to working through them. Vote for the one that resonates most with you, or add your own in the comments. When we have enough votes, we’ll open a dedicated thread where members can share strategies that have worked for them, so we build a collective playbook together.

The first step in any open relationship journey is knowing your WHY. For the next 7 days, take 5 minutes each day to answer a short reflection question. Post your answers as a comment (or keep them private — but share at least one insight by the end of the week to earn extra points). Day 1: Why am I curious about an open relationship? Day 2: What fears come up when I think about opening up? Day 3: What do I want more of in my love life? Day 4: What values are non-negotiable for me? Day 5: How do I usually deal with jealousy? Day 6: What boundaries would make me feel safe? Day 7: How will I know this path is right for me? ✅ Completing all 7 days will unlock the Boundary Builder badge and give you +100 points.