We’ve been talking about training our children to listen. But now we have to ask: Are we listening too? Some of us want our children to listen the first time, but we don’t listen until they fall apart. We don’t listen when they say they’re tired.We don’t listen when their body is overstimulated.We don’t listen when their behavior is trying to communicate something.We don’t listen when the room is already too loud.We don’t listen when our child is asking for connection.We don’t listen when Holy Spirit is telling us to pause.We don’t listen when God is correcting our tone.We don’t listen when our spouse or support system says, “You’re doing too much.” We keep saying, “My child doesn’t listen.” But sometimes God is asking: “Do you?” And I’m not saying this to shame anyone I’m saying it because parents need training too. We cannot train listening while modeling ignoring. If your child keeps melting down at the same time every day, listen to the pattern. If your teen keeps shutting down when you start lecturing, listen to the room. If your toddler keeps acting out when you’re on your phone, listen to the need. If your child keeps saying, “You never hear me,” don’t dismiss it because they’re young. Listen. Listening does not mean the child becomes the leader. It means the parent gathers wisdom before responding. And yes, parents need consequences too. Not punishment. Consequences. If you keep yelling, the consequence may be that you need to pause and apologize. If you keep ignoring your child’s emotions, the consequence may be that you need to sit down and repair. If you keep scrolling instead of being present, the consequence may be putting your phone away during certain hours. If you keep disciplining from anger, the consequence may be stepping away before correction. If you keep ignoring Holy Spirit’s warning in your chest, the consequence may be repentance. Because kingdom parenting is not just about getting our children under control. It is about submitting ourselves to God too.

A lot of us keep saying, “My child doesn’t listen.” But have we actually trained them how to listen? Listening is not just hearing your voice. Listening means they stop, focus, understand, and respond with action. And that has to be taught. Sometimes our children are not ignoring us because they’re “bad.” Sometimes they are overstimulated, distracted, confused, used to repeated warnings, or they’ve learned that we don’t really mean it until we yell. So today, we’re not just correcting “you don’t listen.” We’re training what listening looks like. Try this: Get close before giving the instruction.Say their name.Make eye contact if they can handle that.Give one clear instruction.Ask them to repeat it back.Then follow through. Example: “Jordan, put your shoes by the door.” Then ask: “What did I ask you to do?” If they repeat it, now you know they heard you. If they don’t do it, the issue is not hearing anymore now it’s follow-through. And parents, this matters because some of us are giving instructions from across the house, while the TV is on, while they’re playing, while we’re already irritated, then we get mad when they don’t move. Slow down and train the skill. Listening is a skill. Following instructions is a skill. Responding without attitude is a skill. And skills need practice. Today’s training step: Pick one instruction and train your child through it calmly. Not a lecture.Not yelling from another room.Not repeating it 12 times. Just clear, close, calm, and consistent. Say this today: “In our home, listening means you stop, hear, and follow through.” Question for today: Where does listening break down the most in your home? A. They don’t stop what they’re doing B. They say “okay” but don’t move C. They argue first D. They act like they didn’t hear you E. You repeat yourself too many times F. You end up yelling before they listen Two more post today on listening coming soon

Kingdom parents, this week we are shifting the conversation. We’ve been talking about discipline, consistency, boundaries, yelling, tiredness, moods, and calm boring consistency. Now lets go deeper Your child does not just need correction.They need training. A lot of what we keep punishing, we may have never actually taught. We tell them to listen, but have we trained them how to listen? We tell them to clean, but have we shown them what “clean” actually means? We tell them to calm down, but have we taught them what to do when their body feels overwhelmed? We tell them to pray, but have we modeled how to talk to God? We tell them to apologize, but have we trained them how to take responsibility and repair? This week, we’re not just asking, “Why won’t my child behave?” We’re asking “Have I trained them for what I keep expecting from them?” That question may humble us, but it will also help us grow. So welcome to Training Week. We are going to talk about how to train our children in listening, cleaning, calming down, apologizing, responsibility, handling no, and walking with God. Not perfectly. Faithfully. Because kingdom parenting is not just reacting to behavior. It’s building character. Question for today: What is one thing you realize you’ve been correcting, but you may need to start training your child in?

We’ve been talking about discipline, boundaries, consistency, and being tired. Now let’s talk about yelling. A lot of us don’t yell because we want to hurt our children. We yell because we feel ignored.We yell because we’re overwhelmed.We yell because we asked nicely five times.We yell because we feel like nothing else works. If yelling is the only thing that gets movement, then we have trained the house to wait until we explode. This week, we’re not just asking, “How do I stop yelling?” We’re asking: What needs to change so yelling is no longer the alarm system in my home? Maybe it’s giving instructions once, then following through. Maybe it’s lowering the amount of warnings. Maybe it’s creating clear consequences. Maybe it’s pausing before responding. Maybe it’s addressing disrespect earlier instead of waiting until you snap. What usually happens right before you yell? A. You feel ignored B. You repeated yourself too many times C. The house is too loud D. Your child gets disrespectful E. You’re already overstimulated F. You waited too long to correct it G. You feel like yelling is the only thing that works Drop your letter below and if you need prayer on this topic pray with me : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j_guYuMvvGg&t=187s

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or tired of correcting your children by raising your voice, this prayer is for you. Pray with me, and save it for the moments when you feel yourself about to snap.